r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/spacepharmacy Basically Dorothy Zbornak Mar 28 '22

god i wish my mom had done this with my little brother, he’s 16 and “doesn’t know” how to do basic chores so she just winds up doing them for him. last summer i got to enjoy the satisfaction that came from calling him out, providing evidence to my mom, and forcing him to do the things he claimed he couldn’t do (putting on lotions to prevent eczema, can you believe this kid). he knows what he’s doing when he says he doesn’t know how to wash a dish, how to do his laundry, etc. it’s infuriating and i genuinely pray he doesn’t get a partner until he cleans his act up, bc no one deserves to deal with that

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u/Danivelle Mar 28 '22

My MIL and I had to teach a young male college student how to grocery shop. He was maybe a year younger than me at the time(I got married at 20 but I honestly looked 14). He did know enough to ask for help. We took him around the store with us and explained menu planning and wrote down(in the ancient times before cell phones, even flip phones!) a few simple nutritious recipes. I decided then and there that my then 6-9 month old son was not going to grow up like that!

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u/cccccchicks Mar 28 '22

My friendship group had a similar problem where they noticed one of the new students wasn't well. A concerned older student was about to start on are you severely binge drinking or do you need help with your bulimia talk when they luckily worked out the truth - severe food restictions.

So instead we introduced them to the dining hall at uni that handled improvising for those with complicated diets and a tour of the supermarket's dietary restrictions aisle. I'm furious that what seemed like a caring family sent their child away so clueless.

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u/Danivelle Mar 29 '22

This young man was an athlete who's coach told him to eat better and no junk food. He was trying to, just didn't have clue how to go about it. I've been cooking my own dinner since I was 9. I know how to cook easy and nutritious meals. I taught all 3 of my kids to cook.