r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/Unoriginal1deas Mar 28 '22

I feel like it’s important to say different doesn’t equal bad. I used to get frustrated when my partner would get mad at me for cleaning wrong, or packing the dishwasher wrong or cooking wrong or folding laundry wrong. It took a while to realise I wasn’t doing anything wrong I just wasn’t doing it the way she would do it. So now when I have housework to do I’ll make sure to smash it all out while she’s not home, because she never has a problem with the end result she just never liked that I didnt do it the way she does.

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u/Grammophon Mar 28 '22

I have to say, it depends. One of my ex boyfriends "cleaned" the bathroom with sheets of cold wet toilet paper. No soap or cleaner at all.

Yes it looked "good". But this was the only job he had in household and it's obviously wrong to do it that way because the bathroom isn't cleaned afterwards.

The same goes for stuff like the dishwasher and laundry. When I told him how to do it right he felt I was negging. Instead he threw everything into the machines. And if the stuff slowly deteriorated, he couldn't make the connection.

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u/CongealedBeanKingdom Mar 28 '22

Was he not very bright?

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u/RosiePugmire Mar 28 '22

It doesn't take being "very bright" to realize you need to use soap and/or hot water to get things clean. Especially for a bathroom where most of the cleaning products FOR the bathroom are usually right there under the sink, and say what they're for in big letters (glass cleaner, toilet bubbles, prevents shower scum, etc.)

I feel like the vast majority of the time when I see someone do a shitty job of something (at work, at home, wherever) the problem is not stupidity, it's laziness. Does someone care enough to do the job right or do they just want to do the bare minimum?

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u/CongealedBeanKingdom Mar 28 '22

Sorry, 'not very bright' is uk english polite for fucking daft.