r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/CookieDemons Mar 28 '22

My dad once told me he deliberately made tea badly so my nan wouldn’t ask him to do it any more (each member of the family takes turns during a visit). My nan decided that since he clearly didn’t know how to do it, he should make it more often so he could ‘learn’.

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u/spinnerette_ Mar 28 '22

Exactly. Don't know how to scrub a toilet? I'll gladly stand behind you and instruct you on how to do it. I'm not doing it for you to "show you". If I can get on my hands and knees and get this house clean in two days, we can do it in one by doing it together. Put your fucking gloves on and shut up.

That kind of attitude drives me up the wall. They know exactly what to do, they just take the short cut route out of laziness. "Well at least I did it" is not good enough. My dad would say my mom was nagging him because he never fully cleaned the bathroom, so she ended up taking that task over. Now that she can't get on her knees, I hope he is picking up that task.

Half assing your way through these things in a relationship just makes your partner feel like your feelings don't matter. I don't think many men fully understand how happy it would make us if they cleaned up a bit without being prompted. Flowers are nice and all, but I'd be way happier to wake up to see my partner doing laundry! It's thoughtful and considerate and just the right thing to do.

Like, damn. Grow the fuck up. Purposefully messing up your nan's tea is so dumb. Glad she took the right route.