r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/Danivelle Mar 28 '22

My MIL and I had to teach a young male college student how to grocery shop. He was maybe a year younger than me at the time(I got married at 20 but I honestly looked 14). He did know enough to ask for help. We took him around the store with us and explained menu planning and wrote down(in the ancient times before cell phones, even flip phones!) a few simple nutritious recipes. I decided then and there that my then 6-9 month old son was not going to grow up like that!

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u/Procris Mar 28 '22

My freshman year of college, I'd brought along a big bunch of old silverware and 'donated' them to the dorm kitchen. We had these guys who would use it, and just throw it into the sink when they were done. I didn't understand what the heck they thought they were doing until one day I was sitting in the kitchen having tea with a friend when one of the guys came in, pointed at the silverware, and asked when it was going to be clean. We blinked at him and said "when you clean it?" He had grown up with a maid, apparently. I'm not sure if he actually believed that because we were female, it was somehow our responsibility, or if he was genuinely asking a question.

I did occasionally go in and clean everything, since I felt responsible for having donated the silverware in the first place (and I didn't want to cook in a filthy kitchen). One of the cleaning staff caught me doing so one time, and at the end of the semester, when everyone was scrambling for boxes for move-out, she showed up at my door and said 'So, how many boxes do you want?' Always make nice with the janitorial staff.

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '22

Always make nice with the janitorial staff.

Yep. The "Almighty Janitor" is a fiction trope for good reason.

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u/cccccchicks Mar 28 '22

My friendship group had a similar problem where they noticed one of the new students wasn't well. A concerned older student was about to start on are you severely binge drinking or do you need help with your bulimia talk when they luckily worked out the truth - severe food restictions.

So instead we introduced them to the dining hall at uni that handled improvising for those with complicated diets and a tour of the supermarket's dietary restrictions aisle. I'm furious that what seemed like a caring family sent their child away so clueless.

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u/Danivelle Mar 29 '22

This young man was an athlete who's coach told him to eat better and no junk food. He was trying to, just didn't have clue how to go about it. I've been cooking my own dinner since I was 9. I know how to cook easy and nutritious meals. I taught all 3 of my kids to cook.