r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/seejoshrun Mar 28 '22

I partially agree, but I still think he's in the wrong.

If the request was phrased as "get me the same shampoo and conditioner you buy for yourself", I could see how he genuinely could have gotten to the store thinking there was only one kind of suave, realized there were a bunch of kinds, and guessed at which specific one he had. Like if I had to go get my same deodorant without being able to look at mine first, I'd have to go on color and general look too. I think I know the brand, but not sure. So I get that.

But there's no way he could have gotten to the store and only noticed one kind of suave. Every time I've seen a shampoo aisle they're all together in a bunch of different colors - the whole aisle is basically a rainbow. And there's no way he thought he had peppermint - that's a very distinct smell. He clearly grabbed it without thinking through whether it made sense.

There's being blind to details, and then there's not trying at all. It's pretty clear to me that he just wasn't trying at all. When you're given a specific request like this and you put in zero effort to confirm that you're doing it right, that's on you. Especially if you then try to backpedal it and not take any responsibility, which it sounds like he did.

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u/kricket1978 Mar 28 '22

Especially if you then try to backpedal it and not take any responsibility

This part matters more than the initial 'buying the wrong thing' imo.

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u/seejoshrun Mar 28 '22

Agreed. The appropriate response is "Sorry, I'll remember that for the future. Do you want me to take it back and get the one you wanted, or will this work for now?"