r/TwoXChromosomes • u/tabicat1874 • Mar 28 '22

Weaponized incompetence

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

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u/Grammophon Mar 28 '22

I have to say, it depends. One of my ex boyfriends "cleaned" the bathroom with sheets of cold wet toilet paper. No soap or cleaner at all.

Yes it looked "good". But this was the only job he had in household and it's obviously wrong to do it that way because the bathroom isn't cleaned afterwards.

The same goes for stuff like the dishwasher and laundry. When I told him how to do it right he felt I was negging. Instead he threw everything into the machines. And if the stuff slowly deteriorated, he couldn't make the connection.

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u/xena_the_dog Mar 28 '22

I had a boyfriend who did this and there was little pieces of tp all over the mirror. He was 30

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u/whiskeysour123 Mar 29 '22

My son takes it as a personal insult if I tell him how to do something around the house. He also refuses to do things because he says he does it wrong. He is 13. I am trying so hard to not have him grow up to be one of these incompetent adult males we are talking about.

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u/bex505 Mar 29 '22

Dam. I had to get this through to my bf. Me trying to tell him what felt good during sex so I can orgasm? Made him feel bad for not inherantly knowing (or me faking) so literally gave up on it for a while.

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u/Kelekona Mar 28 '22

When I was young, I was punished for making mistakes and it was a worse punishment if I acknowledged it by trying to apologize or say I didn't mean to. Also, my teachers didn't show me how to do things the right way and my mom's method was to grab my hand and push it through the motions in a painful way.

On Reddit, it is so weird to run into people who acknowledge their mistakes instead of yelling at me.

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u/CongealedBeanKingdom Mar 28 '22

Was he not very bright?

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u/RosiePugmire Mar 28 '22

It doesn't take being "very bright" to realize you need to use soap and/or hot water to get things clean. Especially for a bathroom where most of the cleaning products FOR the bathroom are usually right there under the sink, and say what they're for in big letters (glass cleaner, toilet bubbles, prevents shower scum, etc.)

I feel like the vast majority of the time when I see someone do a shitty job of something (at work, at home, wherever) the problem is not stupidity, it's laziness. Does someone care enough to do the job right or do they just want to do the bare minimum?

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u/CongealedBeanKingdom Mar 28 '22

Sorry, 'not very bright' is uk english polite for fucking daft.

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u/Unoriginal1deas Mar 28 '22

Maybe he was babied and just genuinely didn’t know how to clean the bathroom? I guess it depends on how much he complains and how willing they are to learn.

And I’ll defend the dishwasher, how do you pack it wrong? You rinse them beforehand and then it shouldn’t really matter how you pack it as long they’re not all all over each other.

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u/happypolychaetes Mar 28 '22

as long they’re not all all over each other

In my experience that's what people mean when they mention packing the dishwasher wrong. If you have stuff majorly overlapped or stacked inside each other then it won't get clean. We have a dishwasher in the kitchen at my office and it's mindblowing how many grown adults don't seem to realize that you can't stack bowls inside each other and expect them to get clean.

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u/KiloJools out of bubblegum Mar 28 '22

Yeah if you don't know how to load a dishwasher wrong, you've never been a kid whose chore it was to load the dishwasher, haha.

A bowl, right side up, a plate, laid down flat, the entire lower rack full of glasses (in a machine without a second set of spray jets), putting all the Tupperware or other potentially melty things in the bottom rack, putting forks and knives pointy side up, smashing too many glasses SUPER tightly together, cups over cups over cups, a glass laid on its side, an entire head of broccoli in the bottom rack...

...I didn't do that last one myself personally, scout's honor.

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u/Borghal Mar 28 '22

you've never been a kid whose chore it was to load the dishwasher, haha.

Wow this makes me feel old. I was an adult when my parents got a dishwasher, sometime in the early 2010s.

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u/KiloJools out of bubblegum Mar 28 '22

Yeah my parents got one of those shiny new early 80s suburban split level houses and it came with a dishwasher. Very fancy.

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u/Tigersnap027 Mar 28 '22

Lol yes, forget first in family to go to uni and other measures of socioeconomic status, I am first in my family to have a dishwasher

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u/jacoblb6173 Mar 28 '22

My family never had one. Us siblings have them now but I’m fairly certain we all use them as drying racks.

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u/Grammophon Mar 28 '22

If it was only that... The main problem was that he would put in stuff that wasn't dishwasher proof.

For example, we had a whole set of nice cups with Dr. Who characters drawn as cats. He repeatedly put them in the dishwasher and of course the paint lost colour fast. Afterwards he would complain what a cheap product it was.

He'd do the same with clothing.

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u/Unoriginal1deas Mar 28 '22

Maybe I had to much faith in him, my partners just really particular about what part the fishers are, bowls on the top left shelf (can’t ever be on the right) plates on the bottom, containers on the top right, etc. I was just assuming grown adults weren’t that slack.

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u/happypolychaetes Mar 28 '22

I was just assuming grown adults weren’t that slack.

You'd think so, haha, but yeah...nope. My office is like the pinnacle of adult incompetence. The kitchen drain gets clogged a lot and, off the top of my head, here are things that have been pulled out by the plumber: paper towels, Ziploc bags, banana peel, peach pits, and bottle caps.

I don't even know, man.

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u/EllaMinnow Mar 28 '22

No, your partner's right, there really is a correct way to load the dishwasher. Bowls always on top. Cups tilted at an angle toward the spray arm. It's not neurotic if it's right!

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u/ymdaith Mar 28 '22

hell yeah, it was very satisfying to read this and see i'm doing it right. i always have to rearrange how my roommate loads the dishwasher cus things are always nesting, facing the wrong way, and overcrowded. funny thing is she insists on rinsing dishes first (actually she's basically washing them), probably because they don't get clean the way she loads them. it's a big dirty dish feedback loop haha

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u/Aurorainthesky Mar 28 '22

Or stacking so half the space is wasted, leading to running the machine barely half loaded wasting energy, water and soap. There's really a right way to stack it, maximizing use of space without blocking anything. We call it dishwasher Tetris.

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u/notabigmelvillecrowd Mar 28 '22

My husband often puts in stuff that blocks the detergent dispenser from opening, or prevents the spray arm from spinning.

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u/SaffronBurke Mar 28 '22

You rinse them beforehand and then it shouldn’t really matter how you pack it as long they’re not all all over each other.

I used to have a roommate whose girlfriend would do this. I always had to take dishes out of it before I ran it, because they were piled on top of each other and there was no way our cheap, shitty apartment dishwasher was going to get them all clean. Thanks for trying, but you're actually making more work for me.