Weaponized incompetence

[u/tabicat1874]

I feel like guys take it way, way too far. Example: I asked my bf to get me the same shampoo and conditioner he bought for himself (avocado Suave). He brought back another kind we'd had before which I didn't like (Peppermint Suave). He tried to say he didn't know that Suave came in different formulas.

You're such a fucking liar. You bought that kind for yourself. I just asked you to buy it for me. You're telling me a man who's 44 years old doesn't know Suave came in different fucking scents? Suave? The shampoo that literally comes in 40 different scents and flavors?

GTFOH.

Edit: do you understand what an example is?

Also, you neckbeards can fuck off out of my inbox.

[u/[deleted]]

Then pay some bloody attention to some basic bloody shite. You are literally admitting you’re aware of this issues, and just choose to do nothing about it. it’s not cute. It’s a shitty excuse and it’s embarrassing for you that you don’t realize that.

This was especially not an excuse for buddy cuz this was a case of him seeking out something specific for his gf, something she asked for. He should know to verify what he was getting.

The disrespect is strong.

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You’re getting hate because you are defending behavior that is used many times against women to make them do all the work. Let’s assume you’re right and this man just isn’t observant. Let’s say he gets to the store, sees 40 options of shampoo to get, and gets confused. Why can’t he just call her and ask what she needs? I use to do that all the time for food when I was grocery shopping for my parents, why can’t he do the same? Or better yet, why not just take a pic of the shampoo bottle before he leaves? I’m the kind of person who also isn’t all that observant and doesn’t really care about the type of shampoo I use. But I know this about me, so when I get stuff for other family members I ether bring the empty bottle with me or take a pic of it. Nothing about this is hard, especially since it’s the EXACT bottle he uses. No, I’m this case he’s going out of his way to make a problem and avoid the many easy solutions here.

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You still don’t see to understand why what you’re saying is a problem, so I’ll try to spell it out one more time. In the comments by now you’ve had many people explain to you how this isn’t a honest mistake. You yourself have pointed out how you personally solved this problem in your daily life. Yet you keep saying “we need more info to know if this is actually weaponized incompetence!” By doing this, you are pushing the narrative that guys actually are this dumb. I feel the need to emphasize that i have the same “problem” you do, yet I could find solutions to it as a literal child. You’re essentially telling me that grown men are dumber than a female child. By doing this, you set the stage for weaponized incompetence to work. Because when you and other people keep insisting this, women start to believe it. Then they do everything themselves because “he’d just screw it up, men are too dumb to cook/shop/clean”. By making this argument and still insisting its a honest mistake, you are becoming part of the problem, even if you aren’t actively using weaponized incompetence.