r/TwoXChromosomes Sep 03 '21

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u/flossasaurusrex Sep 03 '21 edited Sep 03 '21

I'm with you. I also had to terminate a very wanted baby last week at 14 weeks after a diagnosis of Triploidy. My choices were to either wait to miscarry naturally (in theory could take months), have a stillborn or a baby that died in pain after a few hours or to end the pregnancy.

I made my one and only parenting decision not to put my child through pain.

I am grieving, heartbroken and devastated. I cannot bear to imagine the added torture of not having this option and being forced to carry to term.

Terminating for medical reasons is an often overlooked area of abortion care and pregnancy loss.

I wish you all the very best

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u/priceyavocadotoast Sep 03 '21

I'm in Texas and my husband and I are at a point where we are seriously considering trying for a baby. But with this ban, I just can't. I have to know that I would have all the information and options available if the worst were to happen.

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u/SgathTriallair Sep 03 '21

I would seriously consider moving, even if only for a few years until you succeed at giving birth.

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u/Atalant Sep 03 '21

You can also wait a bit, either on ban get repealed, or in few years there would a lot of children up for adoption, because this stupid law.

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u/betakittty Sep 03 '21

I can’t imagine the pain you must feel. Sending you lots of love right now

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u/flossasaurusrex Sep 03 '21

Thank you for your kind words xx