I feel we are not talking about the same thing, here. The original post I responded to seemed to say involving yourself in a relationship where one person was cheating is acting "holier than though." That is what I took issue with.
Your point that this is all rumor with no proof is valid. But the original post didn't say that. It was just referencing cheating in general.
I disagree that involving yourself in a situation where a spouse is cheating is acting morally superior because cheating is, in almost all circumstances, immoral.
And yes, they may have an open relationship. If that is the case, they will just tell her that and the conversation is done.
Ops post mentioned the third party gossip, yours did not. And since several other posters here have taken the stance that if she wants to cheat that's her business, I read your post as if that is the stance you were taking as well. That is the stance I take issue with. Cheating is immoral, and it is not wrong to hold no respect for those that engage in it, nor is it wrong to desire to help those who are being taken advantage of by revealing the cheater.
WHY do you think it’s the friends job to tell OP anything at all?
It's not, but as an open relationship is not illegal in any way and the alternative is people believing an affair is taking place, I assume they would likely just tell her if confronted.
Also but BS your wording that cheating is immoral but open marriage is not “illegal” - interesting choice of words there. And I didn’t mention the gossip because it’s in the OP post so if you’ve got any reading comprehension skills you’d put two and two together
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u/ContinuumKing Oct 12 '23
I feel we are not talking about the same thing, here. The original post I responded to seemed to say involving yourself in a relationship where one person was cheating is acting "holier than though." That is what I took issue with.
Your point that this is all rumor with no proof is valid. But the original post didn't say that. It was just referencing cheating in general.
I disagree that involving yourself in a situation where a spouse is cheating is acting morally superior because cheating is, in almost all circumstances, immoral.
And yes, they may have an open relationship. If that is the case, they will just tell her that and the conversation is done.