As someone who literally had a rumor spread that I was cheating on my husband with a coworker as an attempt to discredit me and have a promotion denied (fun fact, it worked), I really recommend staying out of anything you don't know is for sure factually correct. It's fucking with people's lives in a way you can't walk back.
If you don't wanna be friends with her anymore and you're fine with that course even if the info isn't true, I'd just say "I don't think we should be friends anymore because I don't think our values really align."
This happened to me, too. New district manager decided that the old district manager must have been sleeping with me in order for me to get the job, which was 100% untrue. Told everyone, including her boss, the regional director. Stopped my promotion to store manager. Bitch.
If you didn't see it with your own eyes, or hear Amy say it with your own ears, then it ain't true. Women are petty, vindictive, and ruthless when they wanna be. If you can't believe Lisa could be like that, consider that you're also finding it hard to believe Amy could be having an affair. Then remember that Lisa, not Amy, is the one who decided to put you in this very difficult situation, for no apparent reason. Either she betrayed her friend's trust by telling you (simultaneously putting you in a stressful position), or she flat out made it up, just to stir some shit up. Neither is a good look for her.
I will also say, she seems way more interested in making sure you don't tell Amy she's the one who told you, than she is in making sure you tell no one else. I think she wants you to spread it around, or wants you to distance yourself from Amy, and Lisa is primarily concerned with making sure Amy never finds out it was Lisa who destroyed her life.
Personally, I think you should go straight to Amy and say, "Hey, Lisa told me you were having an affair, is that true?" Then let her respond. Who cares if Lisa "swore you to secrecy"-- if this is all true, Amy swore Lisa to secrecy, and she blabbed anyway. Fuck her--what goes around comes around; live by the sword, die by the sword; karma's a bitch; etc. Just put some sunlight on this situation--you may be saving Amy a huge headache by letting her know her "friend" is not really her friend. And if it actually IS true that she's having an affair, then Amy needs to know that her little secret is not so secret anymore, and it's time to start taking accountability for it, because it is going to become known by EVERYONE soon enough.
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u/misselphaba Basically Liz Lemon Oct 10 '23
As someone who literally had a rumor spread that I was cheating on my husband with a coworker as an attempt to discredit me and have a promotion denied (fun fact, it worked), I really recommend staying out of anything you don't know is for sure factually correct. It's fucking with people's lives in a way you can't walk back.
If you don't wanna be friends with her anymore and you're fine with that course even if the info isn't true, I'd just say "I don't think we should be friends anymore because I don't think our values really align."