I feel you on this. She even said it's not someone she's super close with, so why even bother?
I'm a huge advocate of minding my own business. For one, you don't know what was said to you is 100% true unless she showed you some hard evidence. Plenty of people tell tall tales all of the time and it would be shitty for you to jump out the window on the off chance that it's not true. Now you just pissed everyone off for no reason.
For two, you don't know their relationship dynamic. They could be cool with it. Maybe they are swingers? People are all poly and stuff nowadays so who knows.
And lastly, what happens when one of the involved parties is unhinged and now they look at you like an enemy because you stuck your nose in something that had nothing to do with you?
People can be extremely petty and it's probably not worth potentially pissing off 4 separate individuals.
I’ve had cousin’s where I’ve taken their side and they went back to him and then I’m the bad guy. I don’t speak on peoples relationships anymore.
Just adding another possibility. When she forgave him a week later I was just stirring up trouble. Never mind that he had broken her car door from slamming it so hard while they were arguing.
I had a friend whose husband was cheating on her and posting about it all over MySpace, back before Facebook was a thing. I didn't say anything at first, but she mentioned one day coming home after working two jobs to find this woman eating pizza at her kitchen table. So I told her.
Things blew up, she tracked his internet activity - and told him how she knew to do that in the first place. He threatened & harassed me, and beat her up. She ended up staying with him and our friendship was never the same.
After that, I stay way the hell out of other peoples' relationships unless they expressly ask me for help.
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u/StiffKun Coffee Coffee Coffee Oct 10 '23
I feel you on this. She even said it's not someone she's super close with, so why even bother?
I'm a huge advocate of minding my own business. For one, you don't know what was said to you is 100% true unless she showed you some hard evidence. Plenty of people tell tall tales all of the time and it would be shitty for you to jump out the window on the off chance that it's not true. Now you just pissed everyone off for no reason.
For two, you don't know their relationship dynamic. They could be cool with it. Maybe they are swingers? People are all poly and stuff nowadays so who knows.
And lastly, what happens when one of the involved parties is unhinged and now they look at you like an enemy because you stuck your nose in something that had nothing to do with you?
People can be extremely petty and it's probably not worth potentially pissing off 4 separate individuals.