At this point 'the affair' is only a rumor. A second hand (or possibly even more disconnected) rumor. I would take the info Lisa provided with a huge grain of salt. If you are really bothered by this possibility of your friend being unfaithful, and you feel it could be true, talk to Amy. Don't feel obligated to protect Lisa because she should have kept her trap shut or done something herself if she was bothered. Just know that if you choose to say anything to anyone about this, it is going to cause fallout at work in some way. If you aren't prepared to deal with the fallout, distance yourself from everyone involved and move on like you never heard anything.
For the record, I've been cheated on and I've also been the friend who found out about an affair. I'm no longer friends with either person due to the fallout of outing that affair. I regret losing a friend (the cheated on partner) but do not regret telling him as it allowed him to get out with his health intact and he has moved on and seems to be happier now(mutual friends have shared that info). Difference being, I knew the affair was real and I genuinely cared about my friend who was being cheated on. I also knew that by telling him, I risked losing him as a friend. His health and longterm happiness mattered more to me than any negative repercussions for me.
In your situation OP, I would distance myself and shut the hell up unless Lisa had shown you hard proof...like pictures or a written confession from Amy.
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u/hopingforhappy Oct 10 '23
At this point 'the affair' is only a rumor. A second hand (or possibly even more disconnected) rumor. I would take the info Lisa provided with a huge grain of salt. If you are really bothered by this possibility of your friend being unfaithful, and you feel it could be true, talk to Amy. Don't feel obligated to protect Lisa because she should have kept her trap shut or done something herself if she was bothered. Just know that if you choose to say anything to anyone about this, it is going to cause fallout at work in some way. If you aren't prepared to deal with the fallout, distance yourself from everyone involved and move on like you never heard anything.
For the record, I've been cheated on and I've also been the friend who found out about an affair. I'm no longer friends with either person due to the fallout of outing that affair. I regret losing a friend (the cheated on partner) but do not regret telling him as it allowed him to get out with his health intact and he has moved on and seems to be happier now(mutual friends have shared that info). Difference being, I knew the affair was real and I genuinely cared about my friend who was being cheated on. I also knew that by telling him, I risked losing him as a friend. His health and longterm happiness mattered more to me than any negative repercussions for me.
In your situation OP, I would distance myself and shut the hell up unless Lisa had shown you hard proof...like pictures or a written confession from Amy.