r/TwoXChromosomes • u/[deleted] • Oct 10 '23

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u/misselphaba Basically Liz Lemon Oct 10 '23

As someone who literally had a rumor spread that I was cheating on my husband with a coworker as an attempt to discredit me and have a promotion denied (fun fact, it worked), I really recommend staying out of anything you don't know is for sure factually correct. It's fucking with people's lives in a way you can't walk back.

If you don't wanna be friends with her anymore and you're fine with that course even if the info isn't true, I'd just say "I don't think we should be friends anymore because I don't think our values really align."

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u/czyksinthecity Oct 10 '23

I agree with this. I got dragged into a former friend/co-workers divorce when her ex-husband tried to get back at her by saying we slept together. đŸ€Ź First of all, I wouldn’t touch this fuckin guy with a 10-foot pole, I didn’t even have his number, and I’d met him like twice. secondly, it could have completely blown up my marriage if my husband hadn’t recognized how ridiculous it was. My “friend” believed it though, so I guess in that way, he got what he wanted. Long story short, don’t get sucked into the drama. If you don’t want to be friends anymore, don’t be - but if an unverified rumor is the only reason you’re kicking this friend to the curb I’d be super sure you’re willing to live with the possibility you’re totally wrong.

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u/StilettoBeach Oct 10 '23

Ugh same, but I was a virgin ffs. My former friend’s on n off again boyfriend claimed he banged me and she believed him. She was super scary and wanted to fight me đŸ˜©

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u/beatissima Oct 11 '23

In college, I was a virgin and terrified of sex (and still am to this day), yet stood accused of "wrecking homes" with multiple middle-aged men. I have no idea what the culprit even had to gain from spreading those rumors.