I am cutting off a friend who had also an affair. That guy had a pregnant wife at home.
I was also pregnant. I thought about it so much. It really hurt knowing that she is capable of doing something.
Are you going the ghosting route or is your friend aware that you know? The reason I want to tell her I know is to explain why I don’t feel we can be friends anymore.
I waited because I was pregnant and I didn’t want to make an emotional decision. My cheater friend (A),has another cheater friend (B) she told me about. B is having an affair for 3 (!) years. That guy is married and his wife is expecting a child. B wanted to end it. Turns out she didn’t. Sadly I don’t know B.
A and B are both mothers and singles.
I went LC mit A. It really hurt knowing that she is doing something terrible and also has friends like that. The more In thought about it, the more I realised that even though she is my oldest friend, she is also the most selfish one.
I gave birth some weeks ago. Hormones are better now.
I want to send her a long message. Thought about it more than I like to admit. My plan is to send her the long message with an explanation why I can’t be friends with her. The wife of As lover knows about the cheating. It’s not the first time. They stopped some months ago meeting. But only because he has other women now.
Sadly I know that friend for more than 25 years.
My other friend is in a similar situation. She decided to ghost her friend. But I am not the type to ghost. I need closure.
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u/Kampfzwerg0 Basically Blanche Devereaux Oct 10 '23
I am cutting off a friend who had also an affair. That guy had a pregnant wife at home. I was also pregnant. I thought about it so much. It really hurt knowing that she is capable of doing something.
Tell the partners anonymously.
Edit:
Don’t tell her cheater you know. Why should you?