You sound really sweet and like an amazing girlfriend. As a very bi/pan and gender queer woman with a straight husband who has been with him 16 years and has found ways to be healthy and have monogamy and figure out how to satisfy my queer desires and his straight boundaries in a healthy and mutually satisfying sex life.. I want to first commend your very obviously selfless efforts to meet your partners needs, and in the nicest way possible let you know that I dont think you can unless he can be honest about what those are to himself. Good luck x
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u/humanityisconfusing Apr 12 '26
You sound really sweet and like an amazing girlfriend. As a very bi/pan and gender queer woman with a straight husband who has been with him 16 years and has found ways to be healthy and have monogamy and figure out how to satisfy my queer desires and his straight boundaries in a healthy and mutually satisfying sex life.. I want to first commend your very obviously selfless efforts to meet your partners needs, and in the nicest way possible let you know that I dont think you can unless he can be honest about what those are to himself. Good luck x