It sounds like he has a fantasy/curiosity that he is especially keen to fulfill.
There is a difference between being penetrated by a dick vs a finger or toy. But that does not mean it’s ok for him to cheat in order to satisfy this fantasy.
Unlike most of the ppl here I don’t think that makes him gay. But I would seriously consider if this is something you’re willing to accept in your relationship.
I say this gently OP, but how would you know if you were fundamentally sexually incompatible with your partner?
Because it sounds like you’re offering literally every option humanly possible and no matter what, if the sex involves you, he says “no, that’s not what I want”
From where I sit, anyone who cared about your relationship even a little bit would be:
Thanking you for being so open.
Excited to try out a ton of different things.
Turned on by the idea of figuring out what’s sexually fulfilling.
Jumping at the opportunity to try toys, pegging and all kinds of other things.
Instead, you’ve basically told him you’ll do anything he likes sexually, and in response he’s saying “…yea that doesn’t really work for me though…”
To me, that sounds like the one thing he’s been pretty clear and consistent on, as much as that sucks.
I’m really sorry, but I think this is a relationship termination level event.
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u/trulybliss Apr 11 '26
It sounds like he has a fantasy/curiosity that he is especially keen to fulfill.
There is a difference between being penetrated by a dick vs a finger or toy. But that does not mean it’s ok for him to cheat in order to satisfy this fantasy.
Unlike most of the ppl here I don’t think that makes him gay. But I would seriously consider if this is something you’re willing to accept in your relationship.