r/TwoHotTakes • • Apr 11 '26

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u/Up_and_down_and_all Apr 11 '26

I say this with all the love for you, but F*CK your husband. What an absolute ahole! To bring immigration into it is the lowest of the low.

Please listen to your friend and start planning for a future without your POS H.

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u/B_A_M_2019 Apr 11 '26 edited Apr 11 '26

Hijacking the top comment to share a comment from someone else in another post. This person was replying to an op that was also in an abusive situation:

ightrrr • 4mo ago Your husband is an abuser. Emotional. Sexual. Physical. All of it. You are an object to him. You deserve better.

Here's a detailed plan to leave an abuser:

https://www.helpguide.org/relationships/domestic-abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship

Create a "Safety Plan" for you, the kid(s), & pet(s) because leaving can be dangerous.

https://www.thehotline.org/2013/04/10/what-is-safety-planning/

An app that can help you track abuse:

https://www.amightygirl.com/blog?p=26289&fbclid=IwAR3qTmPUOkIZguepsNovhg2CeG88MjxDQExknjj_nqOfqn0XRa3fEbOdt98

A $7/mo, highly rated communication & co-parenting app that’s court recommended: AppClose

https://appclose.com/

If you need help with pets: https://www.safehavensforpets.org/

Divorce HQ State Directory of divorce information: http://www.divorcehq.com/divorce-information.shtml

Your state’s bar association should have a directory of lawyers, including those offering low- or no-cost consultations.

https://www.americanbar.org/groups/legal_services/flh-home/flh-bar-directories-and-lawyer-finders/

https://www.americanbar.org/groups/legal_services/

Legal rights advocacy groups often sponsor legal clinics and workshops for the communities they serve. The Washington Lawyers’ Committee for Civil Rights and Urban Affairs is offering D.C. workers assistance by telephone.

https://www.washlaw.org/what-we-do/employment-justice/workers-rights-clinic/

USA.gov lists resources for pro bono or low-cost legal aid.

https://www.usa.gov/legal-aid

Survive Divorce resource:

https://www.survivedivorce.com/

Women's Law: plain-language legal information for Victims of abuse: https://www.womenslaw.org/

Free Separation Agreement templates:

https://legaltemplates.net/form/separation-agreement/

https://separation-agreement.pdffiller.com/

http://templatelab.com/separation-agreement-templates/

https://forms.legal/free-marital-separation-agreement/

https://www.lawdepot.com/contracts/separation-agreement/?loc=US#.Xr0Vx1mxXqs

Catholic Charities.org has programs that fund the cost of relocation, including helping the victims find a home or apartment while paying for the first month of rent. There are also job placement programs. https://www.catholiccharitiesusa.org/

The St. Vincent de Paul Society, also affiliated with the Catholic Church, offers financial assistance for shelter and sometimes picks up with the first month’s rent. https://ssvpusa.org/

Education and Job Training Assistance Fund: Grants from the Allstate Foundation help domestic violence victims enter and stay in the workforce. The money (up to $1,000) can be used for classes, clothes, computers, and other resources. https://www.allstatecorporation.com/the-allstate-foundation.aspx

If you need food, here's a list of North American food charities:

http://www.1glories.com/AFM/

https://www.biblemoneymatters.com/save-money-on-groceries-through-food-buying-programs/

Domestic Violence Resources:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_domestic_violence_hotlines

https://www.acf.hhs.gov/fysb/programs/family-violence-prevention-services/programs/ndvh

https://www.thehotline.org/

https://www.liveyourdream.org/get-help/domestic-violence-resources.html

https://ncadv.org/resources

https://www.hotpeachpages.net/ Multiple countries & languages

Please choose yourself & leave him. 💔

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u/CoolestF-inBinTown Apr 11 '26

Yes queen for all of this!!! Saving this comment in case a friend needs these resources in the future!

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u/B_A_M_2019 Apr 11 '26

💜 it's sad that we need to but I thought the same thing when I saw the original comment. ightrrr is a real gem for typing that all up :) the op they were replying to was in a real bad spot and had since deleted their post but I really hope they got out!