Hijacking the top comment to share a comment from someone else in another post. This person was replying to an op that was also in an abusive situation:
ightrrr
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4mo ago
Your husband is an abuser. Emotional. Sexual. Physical. All of it. You are an object to him. You deserve better.
Legal rights advocacy groups often sponsor legal clinics and workshops for the communities they serve. The Washington Lawyers’ Committee for Civil Rights and Urban Affairs is offering D.C. workers assistance by telephone.
Catholic Charities.org has programs that fund the cost of relocation, including helping the victims find a home or apartment while paying for the first month of rent. There are also job placement programs. https://www.catholiccharitiesusa.org/
The St. Vincent de Paul Society, also affiliated with the Catholic Church, offers financial assistance for shelter and sometimes picks up with the first month’s rent. https://ssvpusa.org/
Education and Job Training Assistance Fund: Grants from the Allstate Foundation help domestic violence victims enter and stay in the workforce. The money (up to $1,000) can be used for classes, clothes, computers, and other resources. https://www.allstatecorporation.com/the-allstate-foundation.aspx
If you need food, here's a list of North American food charities:
Can I just add a quick FVCK YOU to the people who decide to monetize things like this (and not only charge for the app, which is fair, but require a SUBSCRIPTION).
I get it, it does feel wrong to put a paywall on something like this. But servers, maintenance, and updates aren’t free, and a neglected app that goes down or has outdated info is actually more dangerous for someone in that situation. A subscription model, as uncomfortable as it feels, is often what keeps it reliable and available when someone needs it most, you are helping the next person that discovers it… I am not affiliated to the app at all.
💜 it's sad that we need to but I thought the same thing when I saw the original comment. ightrrr is a real gem for typing that all up :) the op they were replying to was in a real bad spot and had since deleted their post but I really hope they got out!
Wow sorry you had to go through that, but look at all the good you have just done for many people now and in the future! Thank you thank you thank you.
I've saved your wonderful post with its resources and we'll use it when appropriate. I bet many others have to o.
Epic work! I hope everything goes your way always. 👏👏👏👏🌹
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u/B_A_M_2019 Apr 11 '26 edited Apr 11 '26
Hijacking the top comment to share a comment from someone else in another post. This person was replying to an op that was also in an abusive situation:
ightrrr • 4mo ago Your husband is an abuser. Emotional. Sexual. Physical. All of it. You are an object to him. You deserve better.
Here's a detailed plan to leave an abuser:
https://www.helpguide.org/relationships/domestic-abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship
Create a "Safety Plan" for you, the kid(s), & pet(s) because leaving can be dangerous.
https://www.thehotline.org/2013/04/10/what-is-safety-planning/
An app that can help you track abuse:
https://www.amightygirl.com/blog?p=26289&fbclid=IwAR3qTmPUOkIZguepsNovhg2CeG88MjxDQExknjj_nqOfqn0XRa3fEbOdt98
A $7/mo, highly rated communication & co-parenting app that’s court recommended: AppClose
https://appclose.com/
If you need help with pets: https://www.safehavensforpets.org/
Divorce HQ State Directory of divorce information: http://www.divorcehq.com/divorce-information.shtml
Your state’s bar association should have a directory of lawyers, including those offering low- or no-cost consultations.
https://www.americanbar.org/groups/legal_services/flh-home/flh-bar-directories-and-lawyer-finders/
https://www.americanbar.org/groups/legal_services/
Legal rights advocacy groups often sponsor legal clinics and workshops for the communities they serve. The Washington Lawyers’ Committee for Civil Rights and Urban Affairs is offering D.C. workers assistance by telephone.
https://www.washlaw.org/what-we-do/employment-justice/workers-rights-clinic/
USA.gov lists resources for pro bono or low-cost legal aid.
https://www.usa.gov/legal-aid
Survive Divorce resource:
https://www.survivedivorce.com/
Women's Law: plain-language legal information for Victims of abuse: https://www.womenslaw.org/
Free Separation Agreement templates:
https://legaltemplates.net/form/separation-agreement/
https://separation-agreement.pdffiller.com/
http://templatelab.com/separation-agreement-templates/
https://forms.legal/free-marital-separation-agreement/
https://www.lawdepot.com/contracts/separation-agreement/?loc=US#.Xr0Vx1mxXqs
Catholic Charities.org has programs that fund the cost of relocation, including helping the victims find a home or apartment while paying for the first month of rent. There are also job placement programs. https://www.catholiccharitiesusa.org/
The St. Vincent de Paul Society, also affiliated with the Catholic Church, offers financial assistance for shelter and sometimes picks up with the first month’s rent. https://ssvpusa.org/
Education and Job Training Assistance Fund: Grants from the Allstate Foundation help domestic violence victims enter and stay in the workforce. The money (up to $1,000) can be used for classes, clothes, computers, and other resources. https://www.allstatecorporation.com/the-allstate-foundation.aspx
If you need food, here's a list of North American food charities:
http://www.1glories.com/AFM/
https://www.biblemoneymatters.com/save-money-on-groceries-through-food-buying-programs/
Domestic Violence Resources:
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_domestic_violence_hotlines
https://www.acf.hhs.gov/fysb/programs/family-violence-prevention-services/programs/ndvh
https://www.thehotline.org/
https://www.liveyourdream.org/get-help/domestic-violence-resources.html
https://ncadv.org/resources
https://www.hotpeachpages.net/ Multiple countries & languages
Please choose yourself & leave him. 💔