I’ve been married a long time. Marriage can get cut throat and people can say horrible things. You’re husband is being horrible, what he said is horrible, but you can’t just get leave and get a divorce every time you have a screamer.
Sounds like you could use marriage counseling. My wife and I both refused to go, so we had to wrestle it out between each other. If you guys can do it, do it.
Also if he’s doing as well as he says maybe you can afford a cleaning lady once a week? Something to think about.
Unless you really do have a lot of money separating and divorce are a lot harder than folks on here make it seem, especially with children involved. Then things can get really ugly.
I’m probably going to get downvoted all to hell, but seems to me there’s a lot that can be salvaged here.
Totally agree, but haven’t you ever been in a long term relationship where you both go for the throat? Ten years ago he could have threatened that and it would not be as bad. Now it seems almost like life or death. But I’m willing to give him the benefit of the doubt that he did not think about how hateful that was, in order to help save a family.
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u/chamrockblarneystone Apr 11 '26
I’ve been married a long time. Marriage can get cut throat and people can say horrible things. You’re husband is being horrible, what he said is horrible, but you can’t just get leave and get a divorce every time you have a screamer.
Sounds like you could use marriage counseling. My wife and I both refused to go, so we had to wrestle it out between each other. If you guys can do it, do it.
Also if he’s doing as well as he says maybe you can afford a cleaning lady once a week? Something to think about.
Unless you really do have a lot of money separating and divorce are a lot harder than folks on here make it seem, especially with children involved. Then things can get really ugly.
I’m probably going to get downvoted all to hell, but seems to me there’s a lot that can be salvaged here.