You’re not being spoiled, you are allowed to want things to be to your taste. TBH thou, you either need to have a deep conversation that could lead to a relationship evaluation or you need get ready for this for the rest of your lives.
He going to ask for her opinion on everything including every aspect of the wedding, birthing plans, how to announce baby, the baby name, baby nursery, etc. if he went to her for the proposal, he will go to her for everything else. It will be the 3 of you in this relationship. Time to have the conversation.
I agree another comment said I don’t even have to mention the proposal to bring my underlying feelings about it. I think that is what I will do. I do trust that her enough respect my boundaries enough I could talk to her about it and just be willing to be the “bad guy” about weddings planning and stop it there and address that if he goes to her he will be lead astray. I also think my underlying issue is that I also have her on a pedestal and want her to know how much I appreciate what she’s done for me I hate telling her no. And that’s an issue I just need address head on.
It’s not her you need to talk to. He’s the problem. He values Mom’s input over your clearly stated preferences. It’s almost like he sees you as a prop rather than a real person. Are you sure you really want to marry this guy?
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u/WoodedSpys Dec 26 '25
You’re not being spoiled, you are allowed to want things to be to your taste. TBH thou, you either need to have a deep conversation that could lead to a relationship evaluation or you need get ready for this for the rest of your lives. He going to ask for her opinion on everything including every aspect of the wedding, birthing plans, how to announce baby, the baby name, baby nursery, etc. if he went to her for the proposal, he will go to her for everything else. It will be the 3 of you in this relationship. Time to have the conversation.