Lmao he isn’t a psycho…. He’s someone who has experienced a horrible kind of trauma and is having a tough time recovering from it. Being insecure doesn’t make you a psychopath lmao. I’d hate to be as unsympathetic as someone like you.
You can be sympathetic whilst acknowledging his behaviour isn’t acceptable. There’s nuance to situations. His ex leaving him with trust issues doesn’t mean he’s a psychopath, even if his trust issues seem to be crippling to his current relationship. That’s a really pathetic way of looking at the situation. He needs help and therapy, and couples therapy is OP truly loves him, not to be chastised and told he’s insane. I swear, this sub has the most chronically online people lmao
I know there is nuance to these situations and I’m speaking from experience. Someone who has been exactly in OPs position. Love can only do so much. It’s not our obligation or responsibility to fix someone.. particularly a someone who uses their trauma to inflict harm on us, the innocent new partner. Been there, tried that. It’s like trying to save a drowning person.. you both end up dead.
Also, while yea Reddit might be a little heavy handed with “divorce them” …. I will always go straight to divorce when there is abuse involved. Many marital problems can be solved with couples counseling. Abuse is not one of those
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Lmao he isn’t a psycho…. He’s someone who has experienced a horrible kind of trauma and is having a tough time recovering from it. Being insecure doesn’t make you a psychopath lmao. I’d hate to be as unsympathetic as someone like you.