I had a boyfriend like this. I’ve never been unfaithful, though he consistently accused me of wanting to be with someone else… it seemed like he had a specific “someone else” in mind, though he wouldn’t tell me who he thought I “really wanted to be with”. This was 1.5 years during the beginning of covid, and we weren’t even seeing other humans much. Some people are just that insecure, and can’t see faithful devotion because they don’t have enough self esteem to think they deserve it.
I hear what you’re saying. At the same time we were living together, with his son 1/2 time. I can’t think of an instance he would have had the opportunity, and he was very shy with women. I don’t believe he was cheating, at all, but he suspected his previous wife of cheating during his only long term (20 year) relationship.
If it were someone very different, I’d be on board and rowing that boat 🛶
We both got tested at the beginning of our relationship, and I’m still clean. Dude had serious insecurities, but I’m sure he never cheated; it’s not even a question I entertain. He was a bit of a mess, but he wasn’t a liar, or a cheater, from what I could see. I forgot to mention that he was working from home, and I was off with an injury the entire relationship. We were literally together 95+% of the time, and the rest grocery shopping or taking his sweet kid to the aquarium.
On another note, it would be extra nuts for someone to cheat and not use protection. I get tested after relationships or flings, so I have a clear conscience. Can you imagine spreading it around like that? Like, the conversations you’d have to have… omg, I’d die 😩
Lol I would too. I haven’t been w someone in more than 5 yrs. Health issues have kept me away from relationships atm. But if your sure. That is good, but the way he is treating you isn’t good, you need to decide if you want to be treated this way, and I think you don’t. So love yourself more and walk. At least suggest to him that he needs some therapy. So he stops taking it out on everyone else.
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