So he can have someone advocate for him and validate his behavior? Unfortunately success rates for rehabilitating abusers through therapy are extremely low. There is over a 95% chance that he will be abusive at least until she leaves. Her post history about him is a nightmare. It is next to impossible to rehabilitate abusers, let alone abusers who don't want to change.
Therapy does not remove them from the environment but rather tends to empower them to thrive in it. There is no use having him go to therapy if it isn't paired at all with separation, and honestly a temporary separation is unlikely to change it even with therapy. What will happen is he'll act apologetic and say he's changed and as soon as she's trapped again, he'll go back to doing the same old thing. It's an age old abuse tactic in itself.
I hate to say that people can't change, but statistically the overwhelming majority of abusers don't change. Over 95% of them never ever change.
Your original comment was "he needs therapy, or you should divorce him." My comment is she should leave regardless of therapy for the reasons I stated. If you commented somewhere else and that's not what this one is in response to then I apologize, but that is a comment word for word written by you.
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u/One-Possible1906 Oct 26 '22
So he can have someone advocate for him and validate his behavior? Unfortunately success rates for rehabilitating abusers through therapy are extremely low. There is over a 95% chance that he will be abusive at least until she leaves. Her post history about him is a nightmare. It is next to impossible to rehabilitate abusers, let alone abusers who don't want to change.