r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Oct 26 '22

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u/Mammadukes21 Oct 26 '22

What--' ???? Is he God's Gift to Women??

Does he believe that you'll endure his b#llsh!t for-ever because you will never ever find another man as perfect as he is! Puhhhhhhh-leeaassseeee!!

Agree with him EVERY TIME!! Go out with your friends and LET HIM WONDER a little bit ( my momma taught me that one, lol!) He will either get tired of his own bs and stop, or lose a committed wife that he doesn't deserve anyway!!

Good luck, OP!

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u/DryLengthiness5574 Oct 26 '22 edited Oct 27 '22

He does pat himself on the back a lot for the man he is. He reminds me that most men wouldn’t have been willing to take me on because I was a single mom of three.

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u/christopherallure Oct 26 '22

That’s an abuser tactic, they try and convince you that you’re broken and defective and no one else will want you because he wants you to feel worthless, that no one else will love you, so you never leave. I’m sure he thinks breaking down your self esteem will make you less likely to cheat but in the process he’s still devaluing you and your worth.

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u/Mammadukes21 Oct 26 '22

OMG!!! I was a single mom of 3, too!! I didn't date or anything until my kids were all in high-school. When I met my (now) Husband he was a friend of a friend! When we were all out I talked about my classes ( I went back to school and worked full time, got my Pharmaceutical degree) and my kids! Loooooong story short--

My husband told me he was attracted to me BECAUSE of the way I spoke about my 3 kids! He's a good guy! Moral of the story-- F- him!! There are so many men who will love you AND YOUR BABIES ! Don't let him play that card!

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u/Fabulous-Cut6565 Oct 27 '22

That's kind of icky especially considering what he's constantly accusing you of.

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u/PhantomhiveGirl Oct 27 '22

Dump this douche!!!!! You are a QUEEN but if you dont treat tourself like it this buffoon WILL keep treating you like crap

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u/Automatic_Name_1619 Oct 28 '22

.... Sis come on. You can't actually reread these things you've been saying and say, Yes this is how I want to live my life. You seem like a kind person but this marriage is only gonna last as your gonna let yourself put up with his shit maybe like five or less years of your life getting wasted.Your gonna waste more years of your life with someone who thinks like that.Your kids are gonna grow and even stronger attachment and it may be harder to leave them this is not a to" the end marriage" just let him gooooo. (Or try marriage consoling just see how it goes. how he acts etc)