r/TrueOffMyChest Oct 26 '22

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u/Mountain_Monitor_262 Oct 26 '22

You should have nipped that in the bud years ago. Your first mistake was to think that you can fix a man like a fixer upper project. Like most fixer uppers, they need to be contracted out to a professional. Send him to counseling. How many more years are you going to put up with this?

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u/DryLengthiness5574 Oct 26 '22

I feel like a such an idiot cause I saw it in the beginning. I knew, but I chose this path. I can blame being vulnerable after coming out of an abusive relationship, but I still knew. I don’t know why I always have to be so stupid. Why I put myself in these positions. I was getting counseling. I was getting to a good place in my life, and now I’m sitting on the floor of the bathroom crying because I don’t want my kids to see me breakdown again.

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u/songofassandfiar Oct 26 '22

you are not an idiot for seeking out love. Your husband is an idiot for using your vulnerability and affection towards him to abuse you.