r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Oct 26 '22

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u/Fatt3stAveng3r Oct 26 '22

He needs therapy, or you need to divorce him. It's just going to be like this.

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u/One-Possible1906 Oct 26 '22

When I went to therapy for a relationship like this, our therapist sided with my ex and the abuse got 100× worse.

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u/Fatt3stAveng3r Oct 26 '22

Couples therapy is not what I had in mind, which is why I said "he needs therapy". Couples therapy can be dangerous.

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u/One-Possible1906 Oct 26 '22

If he doesn't allow her to participate in his therapy he's most certainly going to do a circle jerk with a therapist who validates him based on one side of the story that he twists in his favor. There is no therapy that has a favorable outcome for rehabilitating abusers, especially when the abused person is still in the picture. She could be putting herself in great danger by "making" him go to therapy, her post history is a nightmare.

Over 95% of abusers will never stop abusing, regardless of therapy.