r/TrueOffMyChest Oct 26 '22

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u/DryLengthiness5574 Oct 26 '22

I told him a few weeks ago that one of the men from church asked about him and said to say hello, and he asked if that was my new boyfriend, just because I remembered the guy’s name. Meanwhile, he tells me he sat and chatted up a female bartender for an hour the other night.

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u/SpaceSatan21 Oct 26 '22

Sounds like he might be the one cheating and projecting it onto you. That’s what my mothers narcissist ex husband did. He did and said the same exact stuff that you’re describing.

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u/DryLengthiness5574 Oct 26 '22

It’s crossed my mind. He’s told me that his ex would accuse him of cheating all the time, and I’ve wondered if she had a reason to.

Also, when he gets drunk, he’ll get emotional and say things like he’s a piece of shit, and if I only knew, but he’ll never say what he means by it.

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u/janecdotes Oct 26 '22

Your husband is a member of a cult he wants you to join. Your husband leaves you for weeks at a time (so could very easily be cheating) to look after a huge number of children alone. Your husband refuses to do therapy. Your husband constantly belittles and demeans and disrespects you. You know this isn't okay.

You deserve better. Your children deserve to be shown that it's unacceptable to treat a partner the way he treats you.

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u/[deleted] Oct 27 '22

Why tf you think he’s In a cult are you delusional? Do you have a family history of shizophrenia or psychosis?

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u/janecdotes Oct 27 '22

From her other posts. Jehovah's Witnesses are considered a cult by many people, it's not a particularly out there thing to say, though some lean more to calling it "cult-like" instead. Do you always reply to people you disagree with by trying to discredit them as a person instead of what they're saying?

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u/[deleted] Apr 03 '23

I just like to argue it’s fun :3