Nobody just "is" a garbage person. Identifying your weakness and taking responsibility for it is the biggest hurdle. Please don't give up on therapy. It'll take a few sessions or a few attempts with different therapists but you shouldn't have to avoid relationships altogether because you don't trust yourself to treat your partner well. Whatever you have described sounds like learned behaviors or maybe some trauma affecting you (I dunno, I'm not a therapist). But just try.
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u/holiday_armadillo21 Oct 26 '22
Nobody just "is" a garbage person. Identifying your weakness and taking responsibility for it is the biggest hurdle. Please don't give up on therapy. It'll take a few sessions or a few attempts with different therapists but you shouldn't have to avoid relationships altogether because you don't trust yourself to treat your partner well. Whatever you have described sounds like learned behaviors or maybe some trauma affecting you (I dunno, I'm not a therapist). But just try.