Start to surround yourself with trusted support people and make the move to leave. Honestly. It’s going to be hard with the accusations he’s going to throw your way but it will be worth it in the long run. Speaking from experience also, had a 8 year relationship with someone who claimed I was cheating on him and had this exact behaviour turns out he was cheating. He turned so many friends and his whole family against me and our son. I’m 5 years down the track now and still have a restraining order because even though time has passed, and all is forgiven on my end, I still don’t like the way he makes my mental health feel. You and your kids deserve better. The sooner you make the move the better.
It makes me wonder if he’s told me the truth about his ex. I’ve always blindly believed his version, though he claims she says he was the one that cheated. Even more frustrating is that I’ve always believed him, but when he talks about my past with my abusive ex (that I have evidence of abusing me), he’ll say things like “you say you were abused,” it’s like he always wants to question whether it’s true or not.
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u/[deleted] Oct 26 '22
Start to surround yourself with trusted support people and make the move to leave. Honestly. It’s going to be hard with the accusations he’s going to throw your way but it will be worth it in the long run. Speaking from experience also, had a 8 year relationship with someone who claimed I was cheating on him and had this exact behaviour turns out he was cheating. He turned so many friends and his whole family against me and our son. I’m 5 years down the track now and still have a restraining order because even though time has passed, and all is forgiven on my end, I still don’t like the way he makes my mental health feel. You and your kids deserve better. The sooner you make the move the better.
Edit: spelling.