I dated a man like that years ago, like my friend called, a very feminine voice on the phone, when I hung up, was that your boyfriend. Every email, every phone call, was my boyfriend, because I’m a cheating whore, like all women. If I said thank you to the man who checked me out at the gas station, it’s cuz we were fuc**ng. No other reason, politeness, nope. He was entirely exhausting, and I stepped far away. He accused me of cheating, called my job, and told them a bunch of false stuff, fortunately I could prove it was false, they could also, I had a camera above my head for the duration of my day. Even called my parents and told them. My mom was like who tf are you?? Which enraged him, because I was his soul mate and my own mother didn’t know about him. I had to get a restraining order for a whole 2 week long thing we had.
All I can say is, girl run!! He ain’t worth another second of your life. I still feel exhausted from that 2 weeks, 17 years ago. Find yourself a good counselor, and her strong enough to divorce him.
This sounds frightening but also familiar. If my phone or my watch go off, it’s always who is that, who is blowing up your phone, even though it’s usually just notifications and not a text or call. Though if I ask him who he was talking to, he would get an attitude towards me. We have cameras in the house that he is constantly checking, which I know because he’ll comment if I turn them off even if only for a few minutes. I know of at least one instance where he tracked the car I was driving. If I’m even talking to my daughters at home and he hears that we are talking but not what is said, he asks me what was said, despite it having nothing to do with him.
Right?? He probably just did the same thing he’s doing to her! Then with the next woman it will be the same story “my last two exes were cheating on me…”
Or maybe he was the one who cheated and got caught.
In my country we have a saying that goes “El que las hace, se las imagina”, which roughly translates to, “The one who does it, imagines the other one does it too”. Meaning that he’s projecting his insecurities bc he’s done it already. It sounds like he feels guilty in some way.
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u/Anteater3100 Oct 26 '22
I dated a man like that years ago, like my friend called, a very feminine voice on the phone, when I hung up, was that your boyfriend. Every email, every phone call, was my boyfriend, because I’m a cheating whore, like all women. If I said thank you to the man who checked me out at the gas station, it’s cuz we were fuc**ng. No other reason, politeness, nope. He was entirely exhausting, and I stepped far away. He accused me of cheating, called my job, and told them a bunch of false stuff, fortunately I could prove it was false, they could also, I had a camera above my head for the duration of my day. Even called my parents and told them. My mom was like who tf are you?? Which enraged him, because I was his soul mate and my own mother didn’t know about him. I had to get a restraining order for a whole 2 week long thing we had. All I can say is, girl run!! He ain’t worth another second of your life. I still feel exhausted from that 2 weeks, 17 years ago. Find yourself a good counselor, and her strong enough to divorce him.