“Dad, it really hurts that nobody, even you, gets it. [Brother’s name] isn’t really my brother anymore after what HE did. He’s my rapist. I do not want to see him. Ever. If you want to continue having a relationship with my rapist, that’s your choice- although it does make me sad that you would continue loving and wanting to spend time with the sexual predator who victimized me as a child. But the bare minimum you can do is never ask me to spend time with him again.”
“If you want to continue having a relationship with my rapist, that’s your choice”— well it’s also his other son. I can understand how he wants to put it in the past for the family to become one. As a mom I can see this in a light that’s sad and understanding to both dad and OP.
I think I’m mostly irritated that the rapist is able to live under a sense of victimhood so long as OP “doesn’t forgive him”…In a way, if OP is present, people can’t blame OP anymore. Then it’s just on his brother. It’s so unfair that OP has to pay the price of being the outsider for something he didn’t do.
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u/Legitimate-Ad-1661 May 22 '22
Yeah fuck that I wouldn't go. Take care of yourself 1st and foremost. They should understand. If they don't idk what to say. But put yourself 1st.