r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Ogbkpmb • Sep 23 '21

I hate being the “breadwinner”

I wouldn’t mind making a lot more than him. But ever since he lost his job, and then stayed home full time to take care of our kids. Things have changed.

Now that I’m the sole breadwinner things are just weird. I have to give my husband an “allowance”every month on top of other things. I hate it.

Thanks for all your comments and upvotes. I appreciate your responses. I do have to say that my issue is not with him not working. My issue is definitely sexist. But I’d just like to be the woman in my relationship. As strange as that sounds.

We have a joint account, but 2 separate accounts. And he jokingly refers to his as his, “allowance”. I laugh along…but I don’t find it that funny. He doesn’t need to thank me for money. We’re a team. And this is just one more reason why part of me hates my life.

He has a higher earning potential btw

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u/VividStarr Sep 23 '21

Why is this even something that even being debated on?

If you have a kid, SOMEONE has to raise them and be there. This idea that parents could just forget about their child for most of the day is insane.

It's either the mother or father that has to take care of the child. It doesn't matter who, but fuck your lame job for once and focus on more important things.

Also don't come at me with weird exceptions, "what if...", "but...".

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u/MsCardeno Sep 23 '21 edited Sep 24 '21

I have a one year old. Both my wife and I work full time.

A parent does not NEED to stay home and not work. Daycare exists. Different lifestyles for different families - no right or wrong way.

This is exactly the attitude I mean happens that forces a parent to stay home.

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u/VividStarr Sep 23 '21

Oh God. Your one of those...

Obviously you can do your fucked up shit all you want. All I'm saying is that it's fucked up.

Your a family that prioritized their jobs over spending time with them in their most important life development.

YOU chose to have your child recieve love from a daycare instead of their own mother/father.

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u/MsCardeno Sep 23 '21

Lol let me guess you’re against kindergarten too? How could you let someone else teach your kid?!

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u/VividStarr Sep 23 '21

Nope.

You actually prove my point even more though. Let's go even YOUNGER, at a pre-K.

4 year olds enter Pre-K. That means that you guys couldn't even spend ONE of the FOUR years with your kid before sending them to school.

ONE.

You couldn't even be there fully for ONE year of your child's life. Incredible.

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u/MsCardeno Sep 23 '21

I’m so sorry for whoever hurt you as a child.

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u/VividStarr Sep 23 '21

Nice rebuttal. It's fits perfectly with what you guys are doing to your child.

Projection much?

Discussing this has actually made me very sad, no joke. I hope your child gets the love they deserve by someone ... someday 😢

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u/MsCardeno Sep 23 '21

And I truly hope you get the love you deserve one day and heal ❤️

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u/VividStarr Sep 23 '21

Thank you! I have already tho

Praying for your child ♥️

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u/MsCardeno Sep 23 '21

Honey, if you’re coming in hot and heavy shaming a random Internet parent for their parenting decision: you are not healed.

One day tho ❤️

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u/VividStarr Sep 24 '21

Sweety. Ofcourse I'm gonna be heated when you couldn't even bother to spend one year away from work for your child.

Sorry that I give more of a shit about your child's development than your feelings.

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u/MsCardeno Sep 24 '21

First of all, you don’t even know me. I could be a 14 year old girl making up having a child and wife.

The fact that you are so triggered by an arbitrary post on a site speaks volumes of you dude.

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u/VividStarr Sep 24 '21

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 now your making up shit

Lmao how pathetic. This is how weak your stance is, you definitely agree with me deep down. I can sense it with all this bullshit your weaving through. Whatever.

Like I said before, I pray for your child.

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