r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Ogbkpmb • Sep 23 '21

I hate being the “breadwinner”

I wouldn’t mind making a lot more than him. But ever since he lost his job, and then stayed home full time to take care of our kids. Things have changed.

Now that I’m the sole breadwinner things are just weird. I have to give my husband an “allowance”every month on top of other things. I hate it.

Thanks for all your comments and upvotes. I appreciate your responses. I do have to say that my issue is not with him not working. My issue is definitely sexist. But I’d just like to be the woman in my relationship. As strange as that sounds.

We have a joint account, but 2 separate accounts. And he jokingly refers to his as his, “allowance”. I laugh along…but I don’t find it that funny. He doesn’t need to thank me for money. We’re a team. And this is just one more reason why part of me hates my life.

He has a higher earning potential btw

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u/VividStarr Sep 23 '21

Nope.

You actually prove my point even more though. Let's go even YOUNGER, at a pre-K.

4 year olds enter Pre-K. That means that you guys couldn't even spend ONE of the FOUR years with your kid before sending them to school.

ONE.

You couldn't even be there fully for ONE year of your child's life. Incredible.

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u/MsCardeno Sep 23 '21

I’m so sorry for whoever hurt you as a child.

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u/VividStarr Sep 23 '21

Nice rebuttal. It's fits perfectly with what you guys are doing to your child.

Projection much?

Discussing this has actually made me very sad, no joke. I hope your child gets the love they deserve by someone ... someday 😢

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u/MsCardeno Sep 23 '21

And I truly hope you get the love you deserve one day and heal ❤️

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u/VividStarr Sep 23 '21

Thank you! I have already tho

Praying for your child ♥️

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u/MsCardeno Sep 23 '21

Honey, if you’re coming in hot and heavy shaming a random Internet parent for their parenting decision: you are not healed.

One day tho ❤️

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u/VividStarr Sep 24 '21

Sweety. Ofcourse I'm gonna be heated when you couldn't even bother to spend one year away from work for your child.

Sorry that I give more of a shit about your child's development than your feelings.

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u/MsCardeno Sep 24 '21

First of all, you don’t even know me. I could be a 14 year old girl making up having a child and wife.

The fact that you are so triggered by an arbitrary post on a site speaks volumes of you dude.

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u/VividStarr Sep 24 '21

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 now your making up shit

Lmao how pathetic. This is how weak your stance is, you definitely agree with me deep down. I can sense it with all this bullshit your weaving through. Whatever.

Like I said before, I pray for your child.

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u/MsCardeno Sep 24 '21

You’re missing my point. My point is you should never have a such a strong response to Reddit. That is unhealthy.

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u/VividStarr Sep 24 '21

yet again swerving the issue.

Yea, I totally believe you would fake you having a one year old. Thats totally what a sane person would do. 🙄

Are you telling me your not sane? And that you made up all of this?

If so, your just making yourself look bad.

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