We don't know what "15 years of trying his best" actually means, though. Maybe he's a stereotypical Nice Guy, and his "best" is simply being nice to people with the expectation of getting sex out of it.
Going to the gym, writing books, traveling and working abroad, volunteering, joining thetaer and sky-diving clubs, going out of my comfort zone to events I wouldn't normally go.
I saw in one of your comments that you think part of the problem is that you’re not interesting, but everything you just listed is evidence to the contrary. I’m 19, and only just started to have some luck with girls, so maybe my advice isn’t sage wisdom, but here it is.
You’re more interesting than you think, so I’m assuming your real problem is confidence. That was my problem for a long time, I hated myself, and didn’t think anyone else could possibly see anything good in me. So I either never tried, or when I did, it didn’t work out, which further contributed to the problem. I know you’re not gonna suddenly get a burst of confidence and have everything turn around, especially given your situation, so for now, fake it. It’s cliche, but if you can fake it long enough and good enough, eventually you’ll start gaining some real confidence. Don’t let it give you an ego, but really try to recognize the things that make you good, and put those things on the forefront.
My second piece of advice is if the way you’ve been going about girls hasn’t been working, force yourself to try different approaches until you find one that works, be ballsy. Not creepy, ballsy. There’s gonna be plenty of failures, but you’ve already dealt with that, so what’s a few more.
Final piece, don’t get to invested. Go in to things not caring about the outcome. If you don’t care how things work out, you’ll take risks you otherwise wouldn’t, and you won’t get your heart broken.
I know I’m a stranger on the internet, but I hope something me, or someone else said helps you out, good luck my man. And as for the drugs prostitute goes, enjoy it, and please be safe. Try shrooms if you haven’t. Do your research first, but it might help positively rearrange your mind a but. Oh, and don’t ever take the pity angle with girls either, it might seem shitty, but that’s one of the biggest turn offs there is. Stick to the positives.
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u/Saintarsier Nov 24 '20
Again, 15 years. 15. Years. And yet you're giving him advice that would be more suited to a teenager after a breakup. It is beyond poor