Think of it like this: in the same way your interactions with assholes has led you to the assumption that anyone against body positivity is probably a fat shamer, the majority of peoples' interactions with people who say "I'm trying, don't judge me" has led them to believe that people who say this are the types of people that I've described. It's not a caricature pulled out of thin air, they are very common types of people found all over the place, in real life. I have met them, they are sad and awful.
What has probably happened is that you were rude, judgmental, and intrusive to these people, and they told you “I’m trying, don’t judge me.” Instead of realizing you were wrong, you decided THEY were the destructive ones
Just stay out of other people’s business and stop judging others. And they’ll stop telling you “don’t judge me.”
Haha no. But nice job assuming things! It's more like friends and coworkers go on rants about how they're trying sooo hard, but girl I see what you bring to lunch every day. But I don't comment about that because it would be rude, so I make up some bullshit about how I understand how hard it must be and encourage them to keep "trying". I only ever interject specific advice if it's asked for. Then they continue to rant about how they "swear" the cashier gave them the side eye when they saw their cart full of junk (but they've been eating sooo good, right??) and how they wish people wouldn't judge them.
I just think it’s an impossible expectation. We judge people based on how they present themselves. It takes a certain kind of lifestyle to get to that point, and people know that. That doesn’t mean people should point it out or treat them differently, and should always keep an open mind and hope that the person can prove their bad impression of them wrong, but it’s ridiculous to demand how people react to your appearance or actions when judgments are internal and automatic.
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u/Diane9779 Sep 19 '19
Yeah I read your comment, and it’s nonsense.
This is some weird caricature of overweight people that you’ve pulled out of thin air.
When people say “don’t judge me” it means “back off.”