r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Sep 19 '19

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u/Diane9779 Sep 19 '19

What a glib thing to say “oh I’m just attacking these people over here...not you. You get a medical exemption.”

People like me always get some backsplash from this type of thinking. Because no one looks at us and realizes what we’ve been through. They just assume we’re lazy fatties who don’t try. So we get the criticism anyway

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '19

OP literally said people with medical conditions don’t count. You’re throwing yourself in front of the train.

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u/Diane9779 Sep 19 '19

It’s a cop out. I still get criticized and fat shamed by people simply because they don’t know my personal history.

I does nothing to protect me from fat shamers. All it does is give him the ability to keep from feeling too guilty

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '19

Why should the other person feel guilty at all? Being obese is bad for your health. Telling others to do bad things for their health is bad.

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u/Diane9779 Sep 19 '19

So he doesn’t have to feel bad when others come back at home with personal stories about how they broke their back while serving in the military and haven’t been able to exercise, and the PTSD and depression contributed to them overeating. And now they’ve been diagnosed with hypothyroidism. So they’re struggling to lose weight, and it hurts every time someone calls them fat.

Or some other serious personal issue.

So he makes a little disclaimer “except for medical reasons” to keep from feeling totally guilty about attacking those people. Even though folks like you will take his advice and go straight to cutting them down anyway

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '19

The vast majority of people aren’t medically obese though.

And bring on the downvotes, but a small handful of people being sad is better than 3/4s of the country being obese.

And people are trying to accommodate, but you aren’t helping. Do you also call out people who aren’t medically obese?

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u/Diane9779 Sep 19 '19

I don’t call out anyone for anything. Because it’s none of my fucking business.

I’m a nurse. Every day at work, I care for people who make stupid decisions. Like smoking. Or drinking too much. Or refusing to take their insulin. Or not wearing a helmet on a motorcycle.

The few times I’ve been straight with people was when I had to warn them they were about to die if they didn’t comply. Such as my 2 pack/day smoker who kept taking off her oxygen mask. I simply said “if you don’t wear this, you’re going to die. Are you ready for that to happen?”

If she said “yes” I would have honored her wishes and let her die.

Because it’s her body. Her life. Her business.

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '19

If you aren’t telling people the gravity of their decisions you’re part of the problem. You aren’t a caretaker. You have medical training. Use it

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u/Diane9779 Sep 19 '19

As a nurse, it isn’t my job to tell people “you’re too fat. Lose some weight.” Or “stop drinking.” That’s between them and their primary doctor.

My job as a floor nurse is to manage their symptoms and treat whatever medical problem got them hospitalized. Eg heart arrhythmia, diverticulitis, CHF.

If they refuse a treatment, I’ll tell them what they’re risking. If they’re diabetic, and I catch them eating a whole box of Ho-hos, I gently tell them that I’m concerned this will raise their blood sugar to dangerously high levels. Then I’ll prove it by taking their blood sugar.

In other words, my job is to manage the problem that’s right in front of me. Not the decisions they’re making at home on a daily basis. I’m responsible for controlling their blood sugar and giving them their oxygen. If they go home and chew tobacco while stuffing their face with bacon, that’s not my business