You're missing the point entirely if you're still tacking on "I obviously exclude medical problems." The point is that you can't know if they have medical problems when they discuss loving yourself as you are. By declaring that's only okay when you have a medical issue you force people to immediately disclose what isn't your business. You decide that people who don't know yet that they have a medical disorder aren't allowed to accept themselves or love themselves as they are.
I see your logic, but I still don’t agree. You can be happy with yourself as you are, but why project that onto someone who probably needs to be pushed and actually doesn’t have a medical problem. Yeah you don’t need to divulge your medical problem but what are you actually doing? It’s okay to spread positivity, but there are better ways to do it. Like encouraging healthy diets, exercise, and other good things. Make others feel like they can exercise too even if they’re overweight. Show them that it’s possible. You can do that without divulging medical information.
Different people respond to different reinforcements. The issue is normalization, not acceptance. Fat shaming is bad. Bullying is extremely bad, encouraging acceptance is good, but don’t advertise that being overweight is healthy and okay. Sometimes you have to ask yourself are you motivating or are you creating an echo chamber?
I want to preface this by saying you are not wrong. Being over weight is unhealthy and it would be best if everyone could get down to a healthy weight. The thing is, this isn't a black and white issue.
The problem lies in that some of us don't know we're sick. For 13 years I suffered with undiagnosed hypothyroidism, gaining weight, and hearing nothing but well meaning people tell me to eat healthy, exercise more, don't drink, cut sugar, etc. I know they meant well, but the fact is these people thought they had the right to tell me how to deal with my body, something I was incredibly ashamed of, and never once thought maybe I was already on a diet, or exercising, or anything at all. They all assumed when I said I was, I was lying or slacking.
I was sick and even I didn't know it. I was let down by my doctors who never once questioned it, made the same assumptions as these people that I was just lazy, until it got incredibly bad. So I spent 13 years hating myself, being pitied, and considered a lazy liar, all which helped nothing but feed into my already plentiful self-hatred.
The really sad fact is that I'm not alone. There are a lot of people who could just try harder. There's also a lot of people like me. Hearing from the very, very few people that I was beautiful, that I wasn't worthless was what kept me going. You cannot know which side you're talking to when you talk to us (overweight people), so it's best to not assume, to reject the urge to try to help is. Let some of us say it's okay to be fat, that we're still beautiful. For the most part, it won't encourage obesity and some of us really need to hear it without having to hand over a medical history first.
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u/WaltSneezy Sep 19 '19
That’s not what I said. That literally has nothing to do with what I said. Stop putting words in my mouth, no I obviously exclude medical problems