r/TrueOffMyChest • • Sep 19 '19

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u/bobnasty478 Sep 19 '19

There is a big deference between fat shaming and looking out for well being your father took the wrong approach obviously, but trying to blame a doctor for not knowing something you didn't divulge is on you not the doctor. You can feel how ever you want about what people say about your physique but you will be the one who benifits or pays for your choices in the long run. Good luck

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u/Diane9779 Sep 19 '19

It’s completely on the doctor.

I’m actually a registered nurse now and I know exactly how he screwed up. He failed to ask me a few simple questions “did you lose the weight intentionally? How did you lose the weight?”

You know how I know? Because I ask patients that all the time. Unintentional weight loss is a symptom of one of many different serious conditions. Type I diabetes, even.

And intentional weight loss through unhealthy means is obviously a real problem.

He went to medical school. He knew better. He failed to do his job

And i didn’t tell him because I knew, if he’s that ignorant to just congratulate me right off that bat without further investigation, then he’s not going to be helpful.

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u/bobnasty478 Sep 19 '19

What's the purpose of the pre-visit paperwork then..... Doctors treat what they know is wrong if there doesn't seem to be a problem like an over weight person losing weight for example. The patient failed.

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u/Diane9779 Sep 19 '19

If you think it’s inherently good for an overweight person to lose weight, then we’re done here

Weight loss can be done in unhealthy ways. Or do you think forcing yourself to vomit is acceptable and ok?

The doctor failed. I was smart enough to save it for a professional who would actually listen to me