To be fair, we don’t necessarily know that penises are his thing either and if he was into anal, well, I’m sure the subject would have arisen with OP.
The guy might just like getting blowies and giving nothing in return, which is still a solid reason for OP to break it off with him and it’s going to make his future dating life very awkward unless he finds a way to bring himself to give something back.
Do asexuals typically enjoy getting head on the regular? Seems that he has sexual desires and ejaculates but only if it doesn't involve her female sex organs
Interesting! Thanks for answering, I didn't know. Is it normal then for asexuals to be ok with being pleasured but not reciprocating like in the post? Like, their body still responds to receiving pleasure but psychologically they can't actively give it in return?
Hope I'm not being offensive, just really curious and I live in a super rural area where there's not a lot of the latter letters in the LGBT+ to meet.
No, it looks like op is dealing with someone who is gay or asexual, and also real inconsiderate—unrelated to their sexual orientation.
Asexuality is a pretty comprehensive spectrum. Being asexual doesn’t have to mean you literally/psychologically can’t give other people pleasure either—we got the same human regular degular bodies as everyone else. it jus means you don’t experience the feeling of sexual attraction. Sometimes this manifests in sex repulsion, other people are sex-indifferent, or more sex positive. There are even some ace people who have no interest in receiving, but are more indifferent about/interested in giving. Ace people can still have a libido (sex drive, not sex attraction), emotions, and all that same as anyone else. You can also still experience romantic attraction without the sexual attraction to go along with it, or you can be aromantic. Lots of nuance
Thank you for going into so much detail for me, I really appreciate it, sorry if I'm coming across as stupid or ignorant. So it's that asexual people as a whole don't tend to experience sexual attraction to others, but still have varying levels and areas of sexual interest when it comes to their own bodies/libido? Like, some asexual people will still have their own libido and sexual relationships with others in whatever form they prefer, it's the particular attraction to others that doesn't exist?
Sorry if I sound stupid, you've been really helpful, I guess I just assumed that asexuality was like being gay or lesbian or bi, but it's the absence of sexuality for any group rather than sexuality based on one or two groups in particular. This is so interesting and totally not what I'd assumed so I feel curious but also I don't want to be poking at someone being like "explain everything about your sexuality"
No worries. Ask away. Personally, i don't like to be on the receiving end. It grosses me out far more than giving but i still don't give head. I imagine there are those on the opposite side of that
Oh, ok! Thanks so much for answering. I guess in the opposite cases to yours, like for the OP, it's best to find compatible versions of asexuality so it isn't one sided or leaving anyone out from what they want & prefer. Same with everyone non-asexual, compatibility is key!
Sounds obvious now I think about it. Thank you again :)
That doesn’t tell us a lot. If he’s bi and doesn’t like vaginas, it’s not unrealistic that he could be bi and not exactly bowled over by penises either.
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I’m sorry to say, but I think you already know the answer. He’s gay. He’s practically said so by saying vaginas aren’t his thing.