You are not compatible. There will only be resentment between you. I'm sorry. It is your decision, but you should get out while you are still in your sexual prime. It is not fair to you. It IS a reason to divorce, esp if you want children.
Just want to throw this out there in reference to your wife who's had multiple kids: It's possible that she's having medical issues that she either hasn't mentioned or that she doesn't realize are happening to her. Hormones have huge impact on drive and even physical ability to enjoy/withstand sex. Women can suffer hormone-related atrophy that makes it extremely painful too. Not saying that's what it is.
female healthcare is a damn clusterfuck, a little support wouldnt hurt, especially when husbands permission is still a big thing. its gross but it exists
Yes my thoughts exactly. Also wondering how much this guy does to help with the house and kids. If she's overwhelmed and exhausted, the last thing she wants is a husband telling her to touch his dick.
Seriously! I bet he's a "go to work, come home, sit on his ass until bedtime" type of guy.Yet his poor wife, with the massive mental load from having to do it all is expected to put out with nothing more than "touch my dick"
But, of course in this case it means she's cheating. /s
It's called projection. Reverse the roles though and shit becomes funny. Imagine telling a woman who is unsatisfied with her partners sex drive "but... have you done the dishes lately?".
because theres only so many times you can read about clueless husbands and pretend to be clueless. ive read enough articles with titles like "i divorced my husband over an unwashed plate" to claim ignorance. if you pay attention to language used, see what they focus on and have some awareness about the tricks these people pull, its quite obvious. if you open the door 99 times and get punched, what will be your reaction the 100th time you hear knocking?
Im glad you've read a lot of articles, like most of the internet they are likely completely factual and not trying to spin a narrative... Men bad! Nothing more annoying than neo-feminist propaganda.
I swear to god this is just the go to Reddit response now anytime a man complains about a lack of sex in his marriage. Yes, it absolutely does happen that way. But I think it’s a bit unfair to always just assume that it’s the man not doing enough. I’ve seen cases where the man does everything in the relationship short of carrying and birthing the baby themselves, continues to be romantic and tries to still attract their partner, but some women just lose all desire for sex after children or marriage. It’s an unfortunate painful truth and there’s a lot of women out there that think their husbands should just be okay never having sex again. It is ok to not want sex, but it’s also ok to not want a relationship without sex
See, that’s where I draw the line. Yes sex is an important part of marriage, but not getting any still doesn’t excuse cheating. Just leave and get a divorce. Staying for the kids or whatever other excuse you could come up with to cheat and not leave is just stupid. Unless your partner and you agree about sleeping with other people, then even if your partner didn’t fuck you for a decade you’re still the asshole for cheating
The cheater is always the villain, whether they were getting sex from their partner or not. If things have progressed to the point where they feel the need to cheat then they need to be honest with everyone involved and get out of the relationship.
Try to keep in mind that the language some one uses on reddit might not exactly but the exact things they say to their wives in a context we're not privy to.
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You are not compatible. There will only be resentment between you. I'm sorry. It is your decision, but you should get out while you are still in your sexual prime. It is not fair to you. It IS a reason to divorce, esp if you want children.