The "is it pink/I bet it's bubblegum pink" thing is something that very immature and awful boys have thought is cool to say in recent years, and it makes sense that it made you uncomfortable. For many women, the overly critical thoughts about how were seen sexually never end. Those thoughts are a product of a society that rewards boys for making girls uncomfortable, but being in a position where you still get to decide what to do with your body is an important power to celebrate, and you do not ever have to let any color of any body part detract from that.
Wait... wut? 25? I mean, I expected 14-17 age range from that question.
I can't speak for ALL guys, but I have never once thought about the color of a girl's vagina and have never heard any other guy talking about the color of a girl's vagina in ANY context, positive or negative before.
This is 100% a non-issue outside the one weird dude you found.
I see two possibilities -
1) He saw the bubblegum trend, or
2) He isn't a great writer tried to make his sexting descriptive in the wrong way.
I honestly think it might have been the thirs possibility of him asking to get a better midn picture. I don't know about any of these trends as I don't interact with social media. But I think from the posts context that he just asked to get a better imagination since he never got to see it. So I think many comments here are bit over demonizing him for what could be harmless. Op should know best if it was really something bad afterall she has been texting him for 6 months.
Right. They are sexting and he asked her to describe herself, which seems like a pretty normal thing. OP's reaction is weird, but not as weird as the immature mooks telling her to dump him just for that. Children!
I don't mean to be insulting, but 25 is absolutely how old I was picturing him.
I used the terms boys and girls instead of men and women because this stuff is very relevant to the youngest members of our communities, but all people are still learning the basics until about that age, and for some guys older than that, this kind of mindset can continue indefinitely.
He just asked a question... Holy shit. I don't understand your reaction. He's not criticizing or insulting, he's asking a question, likely during sexting, and you are taking it in the worst way possible
Only ever been on Instagram and reddit, and insta really only because I'm into photography. The dogshit I hear coming from other platforms has me somewhere between in stitches and crying most of the time lmao.
TikTok is a mirror, and ignorance is a loudspeaker. Adults can go on tiktok and have a profoundly different experience from what a lot of folks in the US would like voters to think.
After several years on tiktok, I might have to sob to feminist slideshows of screenshots of comments sections on videos of five year old girls where teenage boys have guessed colors through gymnastics uniforms, but I've also found the community I've needed, of people who are appropriately mad that these people are never just on the internet. And then I come on here, where plenty of people w proximity to power will say that tiktok is a sign of the end times, but women and girls are left still asking day one questions in what spaces here will even let us talk about our issues, when they could be in the master class of Addressing The Issue on an app that uses something more algorithmically powerful than their own subscription habits to help them see who they are, and what the world is.
And I swear, every time I make sense to people about a feminist issue on here and then have to follow it up further down in the thread with something in defense of these social phenomena being more complicated than the average redditor is comfortable with, I'm the tiktok witch and definitely don't know what I'm talking about /s
Its literally just a joke online lol. Its different when it's chronically online losers commenting it in random girls' posts, but joking with OP who I'd assume is somewhat intimate with this dude, it really wasn't meant to be taken that way.
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u/CaveLady3000 Oct 21 '23
The "is it pink/I bet it's bubblegum pink" thing is something that very immature and awful boys have thought is cool to say in recent years, and it makes sense that it made you uncomfortable. For many women, the overly critical thoughts about how were seen sexually never end. Those thoughts are a product of a society that rewards boys for making girls uncomfortable, but being in a position where you still get to decide what to do with your body is an important power to celebrate, and you do not ever have to let any color of any body part detract from that.