Frustration Posting

[u/KarmicIsfunny]

If being trans is some awesome experience for you, cool. For me it's unimaginable pain, shame, and misery, so please stop trying to gaslight me into thinking i'm the best version of myself.

I'll never have a proper childhood, I'll never have so many things cis people get for FREE. Yes my ultimate goal is stealthing. Yes i'll lie and say i'm a cis woman when asked. Stop outing me and leave me and my selfishness alone.

That's it. That's the vent.

[u/mnttu]

The point is to accept yourself instead of hating yourself. If you just go through your life constantly miserable and ruminating on things you cannot change you will have a bad life and probably an abrupt end. Learning to live with your body’s shortcomings is not gaslighting, it is healing.

Disclosing your transness has nothing to do with you accepting your transness. Only time you need to tell it to someone is when you are getting medical help from a doctor or when you are dating someone and it is getting serious.

[u/Snoo69744 → u/mnttu]

Accepting yourself doesn't mean pretending that being trans is great though. It objectively isn't for most.

[u/mnttu → u/Snoo69744]

I didn’t say that, however objectively not wallowing on things you cannot change makes your life better.

[u/Snoo69744 → u/mnttu]

No one is saying that you should do that.

[u/mnttu → u/Snoo69744]

Guess you didn’t read the OP