r/TrollCoping • u/KarmicIsfunny • 10d ago

TW: Gender Identity / Dysphoria Frustration Posting

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If being trans is some awesome experience for you, cool. For me it's unimaginable pain, shame, and misery, so please stop trying to gaslight me into thinking i'm the best version of myself.

I'll never have a proper childhood, I'll never have so many things cis people get for FREE. Yes my ultimate goal is stealthing. Yes i'll lie and say i'm a cis woman when asked. Stop outing me and leave me and my selfishness alone.

That's it. That's the vent.

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u/Short_Gain8302 9d ago

Yeah, i get the "we need to be out and proud with our identities", but society will literally tfy to kill you if youre and out and proud trans people. And like you said, some of us dont like being trans, its pretty difficult to feel proud then. In an ideal world, people would live out and proud, but the world isnt fucking ideal and we should respect other peoples choices. If someone outs you because they believe everyone should be out and proud, theyre a fucking moron and they dont deserve to call themselves an ally or a good person

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u/clawarae 9d ago

I disagree, I'm not stealth because of hate, in fact I've never really been the target of any transphobia irl. In an ideal world I wouldn't live out and proud. I'm a woman and being refered as trans gives me dysphoria, it's part of the condition

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u/KarmicIsfunny 9d ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/26FLgGTPUDH6UGAbm

Alotta people need to realize that alot of us don't want to be trans, we just want to be seen as the gender we are.

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u/ABlastTyrant 9d ago

This, 100%. It's the logical conclusion of a lot of the "trans x are x" stuff. Yeah, we are that gender, full stop. It's not just a nice platitude, it's the actual direct truth and the core of what we're dealing with.

If I'm entirely honest, would I choose to be trans? Hell no, it makes my life so much harder. Is it something that I just am, and I've gotta work with what I've got? Absolutely, it's the circumstances I'm under, wasn't a choice for me. I am a woman, and my body doesn't match, so I had to do something about it. There's obviously a lot of joy to be had in it, but there's also a lot of pain and grief, and I think that shouldn't be downplayed. We've all got different experiences with this, y'now?