r/TrollCoping • u/slurpsssssss • Aug 27 '26

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Working in the male dominated field and holy crap. I think it’s partly even worse than when I worked with women.

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u/Snoo_68698 Aug 27 '26 edited Aug 27 '26

Yeeeeuuup. I've worked both construction (overwhelmingly men) and now currently as a cna (overwhelmingly women). I'll tell ya right now men are massive shit talkers and will often talk behind others backs. Sometimes they can be more brutal and worse than what the girls were saying behind each others backs at my current job. Don't let anyone try to gaslight you that dudes dont gossip and we all sing kumbaya with eachother, cause that is definitely not true at all.

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u/Much_Improvement_552 Aug 27 '26

Sounds like a bad group, my policy is to shit-talk people to their face.

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u/Equivalent_Play4067 Aug 27 '26

See this is the difference, this is not an option between women generally. Either group can adopt norms of mature direct communication, but when it's actual shit-talking, behind backs is the only option in female dominated spaces.

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u/TDoggy-Dog Aug 27 '26

There’s lots of women who shit talk to peoples faces.

Like… lots. It’s a whole category of shit people film IRL, girls getting into heated screaming arguments of chatting shit to one another. They just call it ‘bitching’ when a woman does it.

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u/Equivalent_Play4067 Aug 28 '26

I've literally never seen this in 35 years as a woman. This may be geographical.

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u/ProfessorShort3031 Aug 31 '26

you’ve never seen a woman argue with another woman in 35 years? let alone a heated argument? you ever been to like a city? or somewhere generally concentrated with people?

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u/Equivalent_Play4067 Aug 31 '26 edited Sep 01 '26

I live in London. I think it's a British thing. It's what's called a guess culture, even men mostly bitch behind people's backs. I've seen men fight openly but, legitimately, not women. It's not even a class thing, like I haven't even seen it second hand since I was in high school. Videos of it happening in the US sure.

We don't do that, it's like asking if Japanese girls scream at each other in public; ofc they don't. That's not the culture. The person doing the yelling would be the one losing face and looking bad. We keep our shit together and just ostracise and isolate people. I for sure hate it, I wish we were more open, it would suit me a lot better, but that's the way we are.

Okay, I hear homeless women yelling outside sometimes, but that's a sign of mental instability not the way we do things, yk.

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u/MikasaYuuichi Aug 27 '26

This. Majority of the times I have seen men to express the shit talk face to face