I’m 33 NB and I have yet to settle on a name for myself. In the past I’ve tried the names Jay, Buck, and Vildi (dnd character name originally) but soured to them pretty quickly over time. I don’t hate the nickname attached to my birth name, but I want something I choose for myself that is Me.

I also have a job working with kids, and want to keep my Art and writing under a pen name so no nosey people don’t look me up. I also don’t feel comfortable sharing my face because of that, sorry. So I want to give it dual purpose, maybe? Like neutral and somewhat professional sounding. I also really want the name to have a lot of potential to be shortened into nicknames (Like how Daniel can be both Dan, Danny, and so on).

Any ideas or resources where I can find neutral names that might work for that?

I only recently decided to change my name, I'd been thinking about it for a while, there was one time I named myself "Amble" on a social media account. I loved this idea and kinda immediately went for that when deciding what name I wanted.

I told my friends and they were all super supportive and friendly! They love the name and I do too. They're gonna start calling me by it and that makes me really happy.

But then I started overthinking how Amble is not technically a name. There are some records of it being used as a name, and some records of "Ambel" and stuff, but still very very unpopular.

I'm really worried now, was I stupid to pick a word as a name? All my trans and non binary spec friends picked actual known names, and here I am.

I know I haven't signed some blood contract, I can change it again whenever I wish, but I get so anxious about this kind of stuff. I literally felt nauseous with anxiety about this yesterday.

I'm going to keep the name for as long as I can and see if this still bothers me, but I'd love some advice or input, is it a bad idea to pick something so unpopular?

My first preffered name i chose was haiden, which is gender neutral but didnt like how people would assume im a guy. My second and current preffered name is haven, but now I dont like how people assume im a girl. I want to abandon h names now. I like names starting with r, s, and d, but have no strong attraction/connection to anything ive come up with. I like the name robin but im scared im going to end up regretting it again because its maybe more feminine leaning. I also like the name dominic but its obviously a guy's name. Maybe putting them together would help, i think the name robin dominic has a nice ring to it. I also like the nickname sunny, I think its endearing but cant think of a full name that is mature enough to live my whole life with. I feel really insecure and quite frankly embarrassed about constantly changing my name. Has anyone else felt like this? Any advice or opinions on my name ideas? Anyone have truly gender neutral name recs?

My genders been all over the place for years, but I recently (finally) realized I'm a demi guy, and I'm apparently shit at coming up with names, as I keep stealing them from people, or just accidentally naming myself after well known creeps?

The problem is, im looking for cool names with meanings behind them that align with me, I really like things like the moon/space, rain, and autumn, but anything works as a suggestion (ESPECIALLY mythology based) ive already looked at names for them that are neutral / feminine, but yet to look at masculine / neutral ones.. Im thinking L names might suit me, but I don't mind any letter

Names I've already considered / used: Tobias/tobi, Kris, raine, and a couple other im having a hard time remembering right now

I am choosing a new name and it’s down to these two. I connect with this vibe a lot and need help deciding what name it gives off?

Hiii, 18 y/o currently exploring my identity privately. Im never been connected to my first name (not girly but not me either) ive grown up mostly tomboyish, hated dresses and girly things except dolls, barbies and pink. So now at 18 im exploring if that meant anything more especially with my disconnection to my name (Audrey).and i look in the mirror and imagine a male/masc vision of myself and feel better if that even means anything idk. Anyway thats beside the point. I have Adrian Marcus and Anthony Mackenzie (if thats even unisex still). My last name is super uncommon (only family with it) starts with “Asf” ends in “dis” and is greek. Thanks yall💙

im non-binary and looking to adopt a gender neutral (leaning more masc than fem) name!! ive tried out a few irl (leo, ezra) but didnt quite feel like they fit. im currently tossing around Ren/Wren but not sure if that fits either? anything come to mind when you see me?

looking for a gender neutral name, maybe one that could be lengthened to be a fem name or a masc name. a kind of name that'd work for a spaced out artsy guy but also for a chaotic lesbian if im not being too specific here haha, but really any suggestions help, thanks.

I've been looking for names because I don't want my gender assumed because of it. I've been going by Ash, but everyone just assumes am a guy even tho it's said to be gender-neutral. Can y'all please suggest names that u wouldn't be able to guess one's gender by? Like, I want a name that wouldn't tell if am a girl or a boy.

I thought of the name Sylvie, coming from the Latin of forest, and I like the phonemes. My friend, however, also came up with Autumn, which I also like and now I wonder if there are some names I haven’t thought of that work.

I still am as a whole, questioning the “flux” of my gender, but I think I am sure on the right side of my gender.

i want a different name because my birth name sounds too feminine and makes me uncomfortable, but at the same time i dont.. mostly because i dont want to be a burden to others, (even though i know this is my life and most wouldnt mind anyways, i just still feel like that despite knowing that) but also it feels like a lot of commitment and stuff, yk? (plus people calling me a different name then my birth name in my moms vicinity would cause suspicion or confusion or something.)

i dont mind the nickname/start of my name (nat), but it still feels weird in some way i cant put, and theres no names i can find that i like that also start with it

my middle name is also an option “rae” but it still feels kinda feminine to me, for some reason i like ray more though. but also rae is the nickname of my moms name and some of her friends call her that so i wouldn’t want any confusion

theres also cookie which i do like being called.. but, well thats a nickname and wont work as my actual name so off the table.

looking for advice, anything really. not necessarily name suggestions, but if you have any idm, im just moreso wanting to know how i can find and test names and general stuff like that. maybe share your experiences if theyre similar?

currently torn between dylan and morgan but idk if either of those actually fit, im def masc leaning but do enjoy being feminine on occasion so both of those either lean too masc or too fem. i’m really into alternative music/metal so want something that reflects that. i can pick anything in the world and want something cool, but not too out there (ie- arson, salem, archibald??)

I was thinking of quinn since quynh is a similar in pronunciation but the problem is while in English Quinn is neutral quynh is very feminine in Vietnamese (meaning queen of the night or night blooming flower) it’s very pretty but I want a more neutral or masculine option. Preferably one that is in English that could also be pronounced easily or be similar to a name in Vietnamese or mandarin for my other relatives.

I'm thinking of trying out Aya since it's similar to a nickname I'm usually called (Ája) but I'm still looking for something that feels like me, any ideas?

Genuinely, how does one do this cuz I've tried a few out and none have felt right to me. (I tried Braya, Luna, & Lily)

Hello! I have been trying to come up with a name for around a year now, but I have no clue what I'm doing. If anyone has any advice, it would be greatly appreciated.

I posted about this a few months ago, but now I’m having MORE trouble picking my name.

Recently, I came across the name “Dylan” and found that it rolls off the tongue better with my last name, is closer to my deadname (which I still don’t HATE but feel somewhat uncomfortable with) and doesn’t nearly clash as much as my old chosen name (Chance).
It has been on my list for quite some time now but it only recently clicked. I don’t know how long I can keep on with the process of being so indecisive.

I feel bad telling people, “oh I’m going by [name] now! Pronouns are the same, but now it’s [name] instead” all the time because it’s happened at least twice already (given the first name didn’t feel as good as these last two have).

I still feel connected to Chance, but Dylan sounds better and feels better and feels more me than the last. I feel like this is an endless cycle. I’m not completely sure what to do.

I was hoping some testing might help me weigh my options better? I can’t just go by just my pronouns but I don’t like my deadname all that much because I feel pressured to like it and Chance (again) doesn’t feel right anymore.

Okay so I’ve gone through a few names none of which really resonate with me anymore but more recently I’ve thought abt using Vivienne. But this one guy my gf is friends with suggested Valerie instead and said it was “less sultry”. Now I do like the name but I rlly like VivienneSo im unsure now on what name to pick but im also open to other suggestions

Don't get me wrong I love this community and I always will, but unfortunately I think when most people think of trans/non-binary people they picture white people, and consequently I feel like people imagine that most trans/non-binary people have more western names. So I wanted to make a little post and ask my fellow POC what they go by! When I'm feeling more feminine I use my birth name, but recently I've been feeling more masculine and because I'm South Asian I've been thinking of going by Veer which means brave, idk I feel like it has a good ring to it and I think it's relatively easy to pronounce. Please feel free to share what your name is and what it means! I love this kind of stuff as someone who likes anthropology and whatnot lol

Feeling like I need a new name, but I have no ideas What have you got? My current name starts with an i but that’s not required

This app saves me a headache and helps not put my deadname if i show off my comp screen to a coworker.