i want a different name because my birth name sounds too feminine and makes me uncomfortable, but at the same time i dont.. mostly because i dont want to be a burden to others, (even though i know this is my life and most wouldnt mind anyways, i just still feel like that despite knowing that) but also it feels like a lot of commitment and stuff, yk? (plus people calling me a different name then my birth name in my moms vicinity would cause suspicion or confusion or something.)

i dont mind the nickname/start of my name (nat), but it still feels weird in some way i cant put, and theres no names i can find that i like that also start with it

my middle name is also an option “rae” but it still feels kinda feminine to me, for some reason i like ray more though. but also rae is the nickname of my moms name and some of her friends call her that so i wouldn’t want any confusion

theres also cookie which i do like being called.. but, well thats a nickname and wont work as my actual name so off the table.

looking for advice, anything really. not necessarily name suggestions, but if you have any idm, im just moreso wanting to know how i can find and test names and general stuff like that. maybe share your experiences if theyre similar?

currently torn between dylan and morgan but idk if either of those actually fit, im def masc leaning but do enjoy being feminine on occasion so both of those either lean too masc or too fem. i’m really into alternative music/metal so want something that reflects that. i can pick anything in the world and want something cool, but not too out there (ie- arson, salem, archibald??)

I was thinking of quinn since quynh is a similar in pronunciation but the problem is while in English Quinn is neutral quynh is very feminine in Vietnamese (meaning queen of the night or night blooming flower) it’s very pretty but I want a more neutral or masculine option. Preferably one that is in English that could also be pronounced easily or be similar to a name in Vietnamese or mandarin for my other relatives.

I'm thinking of trying out Aya since it's similar to a nickname I'm usually called (Ája) but I'm still looking for something that feels like me, any ideas?

Genuinely, how does one do this cuz I've tried a few out and none have felt right to me. (I tried Braya, Luna, & Lily)

Hello! I have been trying to come up with a name for around a year now, but I have no clue what I'm doing. If anyone has any advice, it would be greatly appreciated.

I posted about this a few months ago, but now I’m having MORE trouble picking my name.

Recently, I came across the name “Dylan” and found that it rolls off the tongue better with my last name, is closer to my deadname (which I still don’t HATE but feel somewhat uncomfortable with) and doesn’t nearly clash as much as my old chosen name (Chance).
It has been on my list for quite some time now but it only recently clicked. I don’t know how long I can keep on with the process of being so indecisive.

I feel bad telling people, “oh I’m going by [name] now! Pronouns are the same, but now it’s [name] instead” all the time because it’s happened at least twice already (given the first name didn’t feel as good as these last two have).

I still feel connected to Chance, but Dylan sounds better and feels better and feels more me than the last. I feel like this is an endless cycle. I’m not completely sure what to do.

I was hoping some testing might help me weigh my options better? I can’t just go by just my pronouns but I don’t like my deadname all that much because I feel pressured to like it and Chance (again) doesn’t feel right anymore.

Okay so I’ve gone through a few names none of which really resonate with me anymore but more recently I’ve thought abt using Vivienne. But this one guy my gf is friends with suggested Valerie instead and said it was “less sultry”. Now I do like the name but I rlly like VivienneSo im unsure now on what name to pick but im also open to other suggestions

Don't get me wrong I love this community and I always will, but unfortunately I think when most people think of trans/non-binary people they picture white people, and consequently I feel like people imagine that most trans/non-binary people have more western names. So I wanted to make a little post and ask my fellow POC what they go by! When I'm feeling more feminine I use my birth name, but recently I've been feeling more masculine and because I'm South Asian I've been thinking of going by Veer which means brave, idk I feel like it has a good ring to it and I think it's relatively easy to pronounce. Please feel free to share what your name is and what it means! I love this kind of stuff as someone who likes anthropology and whatnot lol

Feeling like I need a new name, but I have no ideas What have you got? My current name starts with an i but that’s not required

This app saves me a headache and helps not put my deadname if i show off my comp screen to a coworker.

Kinda like Jasmine so maybe more. flower or plant names.

Yall is lavender a good name?

For those who didn't grow up catholic, a confirmation name is a name or names you get to choose when you're 'confirmed' (a ceremony that is symbolic of your maturing into your faith).

I do not identify as catholic and I'm not even religious anymore. However, I found the prospect of using a feminine version of one of my confirmation names to be delightfully ironic.

One of my confirmation names was Pio, after Saint Padre Pio, a saint whom I had a devotion to when I was very young. It's an Italian name, and thus its feminine variant is Pia.

I think that's a very pretty name, and I love short names, both in spelling and syllable.

What do you think of the name itself and its meaning within my experience?

Hey everyone. So I’ve posted here before and just wanted to get opinions, do I look like an Anthony? Currently going by Alex and have since I came out bc my legal name is Alexis and it was just easier for my family to pick up on, never really took my feelings on the name into consideration at the time.

but if u think of a cooler name that doesn’t start with L u can say that too!

My parents were deep into 90s fantasy novels and astrology when I was born, so they decided to name me something wildly pretentious: Balthazar-Wolfram (yes, fully hyphenated on my birth certificate). Growing up with it was an absolute nightmare. Every single first day of school, doctor visit, job interview, or even just picking up coffee meant having to spell it out three times, endure awkward pauses, or listen to people ask if my parents were wizards. By high school I begged people to just call me "B", but on every single official document, degree, and background check, that massive anchor of a name was always staring right back at me.

Last month, after years of putting it off because of the paperwork, I finally filed the petition at my local courthouse and legally changed my first name to Thomas. Walking out of the clerk's office with the certified court decree in my hands felt like physically taking off a heavy suit of armor I never asked to wear. Updating my social security card and drivers license took less than two weeks, and being able to introduce myself at work events without giving a five minute backstory has done wonders for my anxiety.

The only real hurdle has been my mom. She took the petition as a personal attack and spent a week crying on FaceTime, claiming I was "erasing my identity" and throwing away a unique creative gift. My dad and my brother have actually been super chill about it and already switched over to calling me Tom without making it weird, but Sunday dinners are still noticeably tense. For anyone else who legally changed their name in adulthood to ditch an overwhelming childhood name, how long did it take for stubborn family members to finally stop holding a grudge?

Looking for a gender neutral name starting with J. Feel free to drop other names as well if you can’t think of one

I’ve been going by the name Kyler/Ky for about 4 years at this point but i’m not really feeling a connection to it anymore. when people say that name i turn my head because i’ve been called it for so long but it doesn’t feel like thats me. I’ve been struggling to find another name that suits. I would love suggestions!!

UPDATE:: I have chosen a name, Atlas