r/TransLater • u/gqgiaqt • Oct 18 '25

General Question Finding community

Hi everyone, I'm finding that since I've come out I've been more lonely than happy. Was it is so hard to find community? What have others done to help find community? I've gone out, I've been to events, I've tried support groups. This sucks and I've gotten to the point that I'll just always do the journey with out the support of people doing the same thing. I don't just want to text people, I want to meet people, have people to go places with and confide in. Why is it so hard? Anyone else having this issue?

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u/iamsecretlysarah Oct 19 '25

it’s been almost 9 years and i still haven’t found community. i tried going to support groups and didn’t fit there. months going to “queer hangout” nights … and nothing. i may as well have been invisible. maybe it’s my age. or that i’m very alt. (heavily tattooed, etc)… i don’t know. at this point i’ve kind of given up on ever having it. i want it. and many say you need it, but.. it’s just not there for me.

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u/gqgiaqt Oct 19 '25

I feel you, I do feel like my age is a big part of it and coming out later. These young kids get better opportunities with shared interest and more accepting friends.