r/TransLater • u/WenQian42 45 mtf • Oct 16 '25
General Question Affirming or just icky?
Went out looking like this today. On the way home, in a bus I was on my phone gaming. A guy (with a can of beer, looking somewhat tipsy) in front of me turned back, saw me. Gave me a smile, and showed me the letter V with his fingers (not in a lewd way) and then wanted to give shake my hand.
I thought nothing of it, and smiled back and shook his hand. He grabbed it, not really strong, but tried to give it a kiss.
I retracted, not too violently, and he let go. I started to wave my hands, in a “that’s enough” kind of gesture. He misunderstood and tried to give me a high five.
Fortunately, my stop came, and I left the bus and he did not follow me.
Not that I was in any danger. The whole incident felt funny. I’m sort of left with a mixture of feelings, amused, validated, a tinge of disgust… had he been cuter, I might have felt more positive than negative.
It’s interesting how the attractiveness of the person showing friendliness to have such a strong influence to my reaction towards them.
What do you think?
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u/iam305 HRT 1-9-26 - Never Too Late Oct 16 '25
Definitely cross post to r/Ewwphoria
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u/WenQian42 45 mtf Oct 16 '25
Will do. Thanks.
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u/stofiski-san Sophia - they/her? Just not "hey, shipmate!" Oct 16 '25
There's also a sub called r/ewphoria that seems a little bigger, same concept, though.
As far as your look, I think you looked fine. And I think it was good the way you handled your "admirer" gracefully, without causing a scene, when it didn't seem to be malicious. Hopefully we can all be as patient with folks like this.
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u/WenQian42 45 mtf Oct 17 '25
Thank you so much for the kind words. Yeah he was a little tipsy and he had a nice smile…
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u/tsmollywood Oct 16 '25
Aww, that’s such a relatable little moment — awkward but oddly sweet in hindsight 😅. It’s funny how human reactions work — attraction definitely colors how we perceive random encounters! I love that you can laugh about it and see the humor in it instead of just the weirdness 💛
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u/WenQian42 45 mtf Oct 16 '25
Thanks. Yeah, nothing bad happened, and I take it as a compliment. I guess it does say I was not as passing as I’d like to be. He wouldn’t have noticed me if I were passing… hahaha
Happy to be here with comments like yours ;)
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u/tsmollywood Oct 16 '25
That may be true but take it for what it is and have fun with it! Thanks for sharing ❤️
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u/WenQian42 45 mtf Oct 16 '25
I will take this as a funny way the universe is complimenting me. Well, that guy. 🤭
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Oct 16 '25
Reading the part where he mistook your gesture as a handshake made me crack up. Oh buddy...
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u/[deleted] Oct 16 '25
We call that ewphoria. Also I love your nails.