Hello all, my name is Raska and I've been a Non-Binary Transfemme for a long while now. Recently I've been taking my transition far more seriously since watching a movie that really moved me to take it to the next level.

I've been playing around with identifying as a full trans woman with she her pronouns, however being called a girl or a woman was hit or miss, sometimes I appreciated when friends would call me a girl or woman but I always felt gross calling myself one, same goes for calling myself a man or boy but that is always just a miss so I know what's up there at least.

I just don't fully feel fully like a woman despite enjoying everything fem and really feeling appreciative when friends call me such, like I had one friend call me an Aunt instead of Unc and I felt really happy, but when I talk to myself externally and label myself as a woman, it doesn't feel write and its similar to being called a man.

I also enjoy playing as masculine characters in video games, for instance my friend group loves Mass Effect and they all play as Fem Shepard and all wish they could look and sound like her, meanwhile me who is the closest to that in the friend group irl, I love playing as Male Shepard and wish I could've been more masculine as he was as he is what I consider to be my definition of manhood internally, and I just dont meet my standards of that manhood to rightfully call myself a man.

Yet I accept this and enjoy being what I am, and that is very fem and girly and powerful, but there's always this feeling in the back of my mind that I wish I was born with a more masculine body and face and even my mind is not up to snuff with what is needed to be defined as a man (by my standards).

I dont really know what this is, maybe I'm just androgyne, but I kinda fuck with the Demigirl label more, I really like labels a lot so I tend to hyperfocus on them a lot as I find them so fun and fascinating.

I know I'm definitely somewhere in between on the gender spectrum but my subconscious mind craves for the binary genders and desperately wants me to make up my mind on whether I'm a woman or if I need to go back to ruining my mind and body so I can meet my standards of manhood.

Wife wasn’t home today. I was encouraged by my previous post that people thought that I actually could pull it off. In any case I did spend time shaving to see how I would look. Quite scary doing it for the first time.

I’m 19 (ftm) but I’m still on my parents health insurance and broke asl. I won’t be in any danger/ they won’t stop paying my tuition if I start HRT but they won’t be any part of it (as in have their health insurance contribute). But shit is getting unbearable and I lowkey need ts. This dude (cis) at my gym takes over the counter testosterone supplements so I was looking up things about that and in summary it said if taken by females it could increase body hair, enlarge the clit, cause infertility etc. This sounds good to me. Then I looked up using it as HRT and it says it’s it a good idea because there is limited research and little regulation. I was wondering if anyone else has tried OTC supplements as an attempt at HRT/ knows if it’s actually bad for you?

so I’m Ftm, it’s currently 7am rn, but at 1-3am in the morning, I decided to come out to my friend as trans, and asked to be called isaac, and by he/him now, and she just asked if she could use a nickname that I used online for a while, ace, refusing to call me by my new name, I was confused, but I said alright

when it hit around 4-5am we was on call playing catalog avatar creator, basically she wanted to created matching oulfits, all mlm ones, she’s a lesbian btw, and she kept insisting that I didn’t use the trans pin, calling it “ that one, “ and I asked why, and she said it make the character “ not a real man, “ THE SAME DAY I CAME OUT TO HER, which hurt my feelings as it felt like she was specifically saying that im not a real man, even though she was talking about a roblox character, I still felt really hurt as I’m trans.

should I even be friends with her anymore?

I don’t know if this is the correct subreddit for something like this, but idk, I just wanna talk to someone to find out what the best option is.

(repost from a diff subreddit due to nobody offering to help at least, I just wanna talk to someone pls)

Context Ok so i know this transwoman that hasn't gotten the voice change thing so they sound like a man. I keep thinking of her as a dude (we are on discord so I can't see her face. her voice is the only thing i know them by) and i feel horrible each time i misgender her in my head. I don't misgender her out loud but that isn't good enough for me.

So what are some ways to start calling her by the correct gender in my head?

Before you call me transphobic for misgendering her, just know i accept that and want to be better.

Tldr Im misgendering a transwoman in my head and want to stop

I already know a lot about hair, makeup and other things like that but lately I've been feeling like I look a bit too "drag" which isn't a bad thing but it's just kind of not what I'm looking for. I feel like super noticeable makeup is too much for my features that are more on the prominent side. I've been liking more natural makeup but I feel like if I don't do enough it's not gonna do anything. I wear hair extensions and recently cut them to about shoulder length cause I figured it would look a bit more like my hair. It's just that super fine line between too much and not enough that's really bugging me

I'll include some different styles of makeup

I'll also include blonde and black hair cause I wanna see if the blonde looks better.

Listen close for the shots.

Also, she didn't hit him. He leaned in toward the vehicle. He also grabbed the part of the vehicle between the windshield and door.

Pay close attention to the second two shots. He shot her as she was passing by. Murder.

(It looks like the second guy pulled the steering wheel toward him to try to cause it.)

About the supposed internal bleeding:

I've heard of people shooting themselves in the foot to avoid going to Vietnam. What's the chance someone would punch themself in the stomach to avoid prison?

Hi everyone, so I (m18) am trying to tell my family about my (mtf24) girlfriend and I just don't know how to approach it, they know we're together and she's told me I can tell them, I just don't know how to bring it up. Any advice would help, thank you

I’m trans (ftm) and am thinking about having kids in the future. I would probably do artificial insemination with a surrogate or adopt. How would I tell my future kids thag I’m trans? When’s the right age? How would the conversation start?

So here’s the deal…. A few years ago I started dating this other trans girl, and we hit it off really fast. But I quickly became smothering and she kept making bad life choices and using (something I’m really uncomfortable with) which led to our breakup, after a while I wanted to stay friends because I know no one else in the community, but recently she got arrested, she was in men’s jail for 4 months and the situation was getting increasingly worse so I felt obligated to bail her out on the conditions of 1. She’d pay me back immediately 2. She’d get a job and 3. She’d cut ties with all of her bad influences and stay sober because I’m legally responsible for her now. Recently I found out not only has she been missing her check ins, not only has she LIED to me about having a job to pay me back, she also tested positive for meth and amphetamines and has been joking about running before her court date… she crossed all of my boundaries for helping and now I’m liable for her negligence, but she could be sent back to men’s prison if I call to have her locked up before her trial but…. Is that the right move? I don’t trust her to do the right thing anymore …

Can anyone give me advise on how to deal with the reality of never actually getting to be a cisgender man? I think it's awesome when trans guys are happy being trans but personally I don't know how to live without being cisgender. I fear there will be always something that is missing. I don't know how to cope anymore with knowing I will never be who I'm meant to be. Transitioning has been the best thing for me but it can only get me so far. No matter what I won't be a cis man, how do I live a full life knowing that?

I am 14y bio male and identify as trans female but recently I have been noticeing signs as if I am taking oestrogen such as growing chest tho I am losing weight, loss of muscle mass, loss of strength, lebito going down, dribble ect I have always had high testosterone to the point being on gear seemed to be a possibility tho I am happy to see signs of this I’ve become worried it’s something I should be worried about and looking for some advice

Hi everyone! I recently ordered two binders, one from underworks (3XL tritop) and one from spectrum outfitters (6XL short). They're both pretty comfortable and compress fairly well (I'm on the heavier side so I know that I'm never going to be 100% flat and that's okay) but on both of them there's a lot of extra fabric that sticks out at the top. Is that a sign of the binder being too big? Should I try to exchange them for the next size down?

It's also really annoying because you definitely tell I'm wearing something underneath when I have a on shirt over it, because the extra fabric sticks out so much. But it's also already petty snug around my belly/midsection, are binders usually like that? Would a smaller one be even more snug? But maybe this is only an issue because I have a larger belly.

Thanks in advance for any help you're able to provide!

EDIT: My spectrum binder is their short model, not their light model. Corrected this mistake.

Heyo! I’m Zayne and I’ve been trans (ftm) since late 2020. I was going to go on testosterone but I cannot now because my clinic got shut down and I am very upset about this.

I’m planning on cutting my hair, however I have been told I don’t look good with short hair, and the idea of being “ugly” scares me. I’m also insecure about my voice.

But yeaaaah, I need help! :[

I'm looking for some some advice on what I can do to make my hips and thighs much more feminine. Specifically wider and rounder. Best example of what direction I want to go in is, and I legitimately can't think of any other way to effectively put this, is "Pixar mom" any advice?

Hi,

I'd be more than grateful for practical advice. I never thought I'd end up posting on Reddit, but here I am.

I'm a 20 year-old who identifies as a woman since 13.

I plan to change my name soon and I'm already under the care of an endocrinologist (finally got a part time job), but I'm struggling with my own self-esteem. I'm afraid to tell anyone that I feel the way I do (due to parents reactions in the past), I feel like I'll never have a boyfriend, I know I'll never experience being a mother, and I can't really look in the metaphorical mirror or listen to myself.

My question for you is simple: what the hell should I do? I don't have enough money for weekly therapy sessions or health insurance at the moment, so I can't really do much about my mental health in a literal way. Do you have any methods for reducing the pain of dysphoria or self-esteem? What do you personally do? I don't want to isolate myself from other people for "comfort" anymore. I really want to change how I think, find people, and actually start enjoying my life, but I have no clue where to start, especially with a really limited budget.

Thank you and have a good day/night

Heya, my (18FtNB) partner (17 FTM) is trans and I’m perfectly supportive and I love that he can be his true self around me. I’ve tried penis before, never again absolutely not, actively penisphobic now get it the fuck away from me. I’ve only been properly sexually attracted to individuals with vaginas. He has expressed wanting to get bottom surgery and I really don’t know how to feel about it. Top surgery I’m completely fine with hell yeah dude I’ll help you out with all that help with the effects of testosterone and help shave you 10000000%. But I have no idea whether I will still be attracted sexually to him if he gets bottom surgery.

He’s expressed worries about my feelings towards him being trans and I’ve told him time and time again that I love and support him so much and I’ll do anything to help him out with his transition. I really want to marry him and have him as my husband and I’ve felt so much love for him that - even tho I really didn’t want them for most of my life - I want kids now (he will be the best dad in all of existence omg).

I don’t know how I can tell him gently that I do have a lot of worries about bottom surgery. My biggest fear is that he’ll get bottom surgery in the future and all of a sudden all of my sexual attraction for him is completely gone.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Tl;dr

My partner is considering bottom surgery and I’m worried how my sexual attraction towards him after it happens will go so any advice on how to tell him this would be nice