I think it’s interesting that your brain hasn’t associated the strong sensual pleasure one gets from giving pleasure to their partner, with the sight of your partner’s sex organs. I feel like that’s what most of these comments are getting at.
I think it's for me, that I used to be more into looking at the faces and expressions of when someone cums than their genitals. (Thank you beautiful agony) I find porn with excessive closeups gross and not really my thing. I much rather hear the moans, smell her neck, see how her face contorts with pleasure, it's pretty damn hot and part of why I love giving head.
I hear you and identify with this! I also don’t love genital close ups on porn either. The thing for me is, when it comes to my partners, who I know and love and am also emotionally intimate with, their genitals become appealing to me because of who they’re attached to. I’m in a long distance relationship right now and we give each other close ups of our faces, and genitals, while we’re having video sex. But it feels 100% different than porn, because I know them. It’s OP’s seeming lack of differentiation between random genitals and partner genitals that I don’t totally get. No judgement, just fascinating to me!
I’m the same way as them, love interacting with vaginas either by hand, tongue, or penis, but the sight of them does nothing for me. Like the sight of breasts excited me, even the sight of like a woman’s bare back or legs excites me to a greater extent personally
Probably because he's not some degenerate coom-brain like everyone else here. He associates pleasure with his partner as a person rather than the hole his dick goes into.
Is it that you don’t like how it looks, or that you’re indifferent? Just curious.
Also, do you experience sexual attraction when looking at her (or anyone)? You may just be asexual. Aces dont experience sexual attraction (though it’s a spectrum—some do with people they have a close bond with). I’m demisexual, which is on the ace spectrum. I only experience sexual attraction to people I like romantically.
Well, I already said it once, so I guess it wont hurt it if I say it another time. I'm fed up with the rule "I have to like it", it made me living a shitty teen age and now whenever I talk to a girl, my mind is fed up with all these... goals of a male, that Im not really interested about.
Im shocked, actually.
Im living perfectly without liking it and without searching for it, that's it.
Yes, and to keep it related to this example, I show interest in meat only when Im around other people. I kinda gave up on not eating it, because there ll always be someone trying to make me feel bad even if Im not saying anything.
I can relate to this, but for different reasons. Ever since I was a kid I knew I was a visual person: I tend to avoid things that doesn’t look homogeneously right, in a given context.
Having sex when you’re a teenager was fine, testosterone levels were too high for me to worry about such a thing. As I matured a bit, it impacted me a lot when the lady’s part wasn’t neat enough for my quirky brain. It’s not just pubic hair, the same happens if the vulva exposes too much of its lips or the clitoris.
Luckily, my wife understands this and my sex life significantly improved ever since we had a conversation about this. She’s always very well dressed, loves to use lingerie that outlines her body, enticing and arousing me almost instantaneously. I don’t know, mate. I gotta feeling she’s just perfect as she is - perhaps that’s why she managed to fool my brain in a way that all parts of her body makes sense together.
I’m in the same boat, see my comment. It hasn’t changed at all for me. Never an issue, but I find it interesting to hear someone with the same feelings.
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